Mom and sister just died

[wnt2gitswoll]

My moms just got in a car crash and her and my sister were both killed. I feel dead, bro. You've got to appreciate things when you've got them. I hate myself for using my age as an excuse to be ignorant and not give them all the time they deserved. My sister was just 14, straight A student, Class A person. She was a huge part of my heart and I love her like no other. My mom had her fair share of problems showing people in general affection but she'd go out of her way to show me that no matter what she loved me. She had always been my inspiration to becoming a great human being. She had me at 19 and could've easily taken a different route but she stuck it out and no words nor action could ever justify the heart she showed in that. I love them both and feel so empty for the time being. I know they don't want me to mourn for too long, so I'll try not to. Do me a favor and just do your best to do things the right way, it's in the principle of being men and women. We tend to go with the flow too damn much just to please others. The prize is being the best person you can be and being respected. Money can't buy things like that so stop the stressing, live.

[WillNoble]

Sorry to hear of your loss man

[BulldozerBrad]

I'm really sorry for your loss. Thank you for posting this though, hopefully alot of people can learn from what you have wrote and make the most of things while they are still around, thanks man, and sorry.

[BFGUITAR]

Sorry for your loss, I hope all goes well.

[wnt2gitswoll]

This happened two days ago and I've been quite the hesitant one to post it up on here because I don't like to be a whiner. I felt though it'd be a good thing to get it off my chest on this forum which carries a lot of people whom I admire and though I've not talked to them directly have given me motivation to make my life better and healthier. I appreciate all of the condolences, it means a lot to me.

[bjohnso]

My heart sank when I read that. That is awful. I will be praying for you.

-bjohnso

[fooz]

wow man, really sorry to hear that. Stay strong though!

[bjohnso]

This happened two days ago and I've been quite the hesitant one to post it up on here because I don't like to be a whiner. I felt though it'd be a good thing to get it off my chest on this forum which carries a lot of people whom I admire and though I've not talked to them directly have given me motivation to make my life better and healthier. I appreciate all of the condolences, it means a lot to me.

No one will accuse you of whining. It's funny how close you can feel to people you've never met in person before.

How are you holding up?

[View 1]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Dont beat yourself up about not spending enough time with them, you loved them and they loved you and thats all that matters. Again very sorry for your loss.

[wnt2gitswoll]

No one will accuse you of whining. It's funny how close you can feel to people you've never met in person before.

How are you holding up?

Eh, man I'm holding up. I've got to be an example for my peers and be strong. I've got the greatest girlfriend in the world, we've been together since we were 11 years old and she's doing her best to help me through this. God knows she deserves much more than this world would ever have to offer. Once again, I appreciate the condolences.

[MillerTime1485]

Sorry to hear about your family, hope you'll pull through alright.

[yankeekd25]

I'm very, very sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. Stay strong, man.

[method115]

From the thread title I could already tell what this was about but I was hoping it was a misleading title. I'm sorry for your loss, one of the only things I'm scared of these days, is the day i start to lose the people I love from old age or whatever else happens.

[Runty]

Sorry to hear bout your mom and sister. Hope you're handling it alright and it's good to hear you have a loving girlfriend to help you right now. Prayers are with you and stay tough man.

[Invain]

Wow man, sorry to hear. I have no clue how I'd hold myself together if that happened to my family.

[Brawl]

Stay strong bro ... sorry for your loss .

[wnt2gitswoll]

You're mostly numb. Still waiting for one of them to call. Last night I slept in my sisters bed just thinkin back when we'd play Trouble, Battleship and such things. It's a cold feeling, brother, there's no rewind button. That's about the hardest fact of it all.

[mrelwooddowd]

Really sorry to hear this... I can't imagine what you're going through. You're in my prayers as well.

[wnt2gitswoll]

It's helping somewhat to hear what you guys have to say on this. None of you really have to write back but some, if not, most, of you have. That's very cool of you guys.

[midee1]

From the thread title I could already tell what this was about but I was hoping it was a misleading title. I'm sorry for your loss, one of the only things I'm scared of these days, is the day i start to lose the people I love from old age or whatever else happens.

I know what you mean. I am of the age that I am starting to lose loved ones. My wife just lost her grandmother a few hours ago.


It's helping somewhat to hear what you guys have to say on this. None of you really have to write back but some, if not, most, of you have. That's very cool of you guys.

I really have nothing to say that could comfort you right now. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. Take comfort in the time you had with them and always keep your memories close. Time heals all wounds.

[yankeekd25]

You're mostly numb. Still waiting for one of them to call. Last night I slept in my sisters bed just thinkin back when we'd play Trouble, Battleship and such things. It's a cold feeling, brother, there's no rewind button. That's about the hardest fact of it all.

Man. That hit home really hard. My sister is 15. Just reading that made me appreciate how much she really means to me. Sure we bicker over stupid crap, but none of that matters. Not to mention your mom, as well. I am truly sorry. Just think of all the good times man. I really don't know what else to say to try to comfort you, but again stay strong!

[Bohizzle]

I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Keep the happy memories of them alive in your heart.

Andrew

[razorcut]

hang in there man. we're all pulling for you.

[deeder]

That's horrible man. I am very sorry for your loss.

I lost my sister when she was 15 (I was 13) and I know how hard that was. I can't imagine what you're going through. Stay strong and I'm sure there are plenty of people on this board that would listen to you via PM or instant messenger of some form if you need it (me being one of them obviously).

[Jorge Sanchez]

It's hard to read about this. I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you. I wish you all the best.

[Progress]

So sorry to hear about this. It must be really hard. My thoughts go out to you, man.

[markdk86]

This sucks big ones. I see death all the time and it never phases me, but I hate it when it happens to someone even remotely known to me.

My condolences, keep your head up.

[TwiloMike]

Wow, much strength to you.

[HahnB]

Sorry to hear, man-that's terrible :(

[Detard]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Stay strong bro.

[McIrish]

I'll say a prayer for your family, W. God keep you all well

[Blackhawk08]

Im sorry man, that sucks. What can someone say in a situation like this. Again sorry to hear it.

[thoughtshewas18]

sorry and god bless man, you'll be strong

[WBBIRL]

Very sorry to hear this. Anyone who would call you a winer or a sissy is a coward at heart. No one in their right frame of mind could be anything but devastated when they lose not only one but two family members.

I lost my cousin about a year ago, he got killed in car wreck and his car went over the hill. All i could think about was playing with him when we were kids, were the same age. I always took it for granted he'd be there forever and I probably hadn't seem him for about 4 years before he got killed.

If that happend to my mom and brother (don't have a sister) my life would never be the same. It would hit me very hard.

Your family's in my prayers bro. May they both rest in peace

[Nik00117]

Sorry dude, just remember though. Everything in life has its purpose. The purpose may not always be clear at the time, however the events, both good and bad that we travel though are the events that ultimately shape us into who we are today.

[wnt2gitswoll]

I drank and laughed with friends tonight over a little fire. Man, you know I love my life. I really, really do. I wish everyone would too instead of stressing daily. We're all here once and we get to write our own biography. I'm probably not much to many people but I am to those that matter to me and that's what counts. I'm not huge on wanting a crazy sum of money or anything like that. I live life like it's meant to be lived. I work my 40 a week, I spend lots of time with my friends and my lady. I smoke the once in a while joint to celebrate that we've made it this far at least. I bike, lift, skydive once every year, I do burnouts, laugh my ass off. I'm here for a good time, it sucks to see people not having a good time. What I'm saying is, put all the bull**** aside and live. I've been bumping Lynyrd Skynard's 3 greatest songs all day. Simple Man, Tuesday's Gone, Freebird along with Guns N Roses 'Knocking on Heaven's Door'. Love your friends, love your family, crush enemies when they've gone too far. At the end of it, make something that you can smile big about when you're about to enter that tunnel.

[Ockhams_Razor]

i gotta say its good to see that you understand how life is meant to be lived, it helps in hard situations such as this. although i've not lost my parents/step-parents, i have been surrouned by death my whole live, losing many close friends and family members. still, i can only imagine the large difference you must feel. i'm glad to see that you are holding up, and it sounds like you loved your family. stay strong!

if everything you said was true, then there is no need to feel that you should have taken advantage of more time with them, they obviously loved you and more importantly knew that you loved them. they want you to be happy, and continue to live an amazing life. always, always remember that

[getfit]

My heart sank when I read that. That is awful. I will be praying for you.

-bjohnso

seriously! I cannot even begin to express how i feel for your loss.I have you in my prayers.Stay strong,believe,cherish everything!

[Rhesus]

I really feel for you and I'm extremely sorry for your loss.. Sounds like you've a great circle of friends, and an awesome girlfriend, you'll get through this bro.. stay strong..

[LouPac]

Sorry to hear about your loss. That must be horrible. Hang tough bro. :(

[McVein]

Sorry to hear of your loss man, stay strong.

[Cirino83]

wow, that is horrible. I am very sorry to hear this man.

[Mik]

My prayers are with you. I'm so sorry.

[pusher]

I'm very sorry for your loss, brother. Sharing your experience and wisdom is a good way to find meaning in all of this. I hope you'll continue make the best of all the moments of your life. Stay strong.

[ZenMonkey]

I am so sorry. I have no clue how you are feeling but can try and imagine. Stay strong my friend. Hakunnah Matatta.

[Ben Moore]

I am sorry for your loss - I'll pray for your continued strength.

[BulldozerBrad]

Love your friends, love your family, crush enemies when they've gone too far. At the end of it, make something that you can smile big about when you're about to enter that tunnel.

touching, thank you.

[LightningandIce]

I'm sorry to hear that. I will pray for you.

[GuitarGuru]

Like everyone, i am sorry to hear this. Stay strong

[CrazyK]

The best thing that's helped me get through these situations is to keep reminding yourself that we will all die one day, trillions have came before you and trillions will come after you. It's terrible the way it happened but just remember we all meet our maker one day.

[Vicioustorms]

I can't even describe how tough this must be for you man. keep your head up high and cherish the memories of your mom and sister. i know they were a big part of your life and im sure you were a big part of their lives too. stay strong.

[john bernor]

i am praying for you my brother...I know we dont know each other but if there is anything i can do (talk/prayer.etc) please dont hesitate to ask..

in His grip forever
john

[Fuzzy]

**** dude, ****.

I lost my twin when I was 6 years old.

Cherish the memeories and never forget them

[Keith]

That was difficult to read. I can't even begin to imagine how I'd feel. My condolences, man. You seem to be very strong hearted. Keep it up and keep those you love that much closer.

[kevowamo]

very sorry for your loss man. you'll be in my prayers

[Organichu]

You're mostly numb. Still waiting for one of them to call. Last night I slept in my sisters bed just thinkin back when we'd play Trouble, Battleship and such things. It's a cold feeling, brother, there's no rewind button. That's about the hardest fact of it all.

I'm very sorry to hear this. Take it from another twenty year old guy who lost his mother: don't waste for a day those opportunities she afforded you. I'm glad that you seem to have the proper attitude about this.

I too had that phantom "they're still here" feeling. My mom died a few weeks before I started school out of state. A month into my second semester I took a couple dozen photographs of me and my campus, hoping to show my mom the wonderful gift she'd given me (walking me to school each morning, encouraging me to get good grades so I could attend school, etc.). I had all the pictures taken, uploaded them to my computer, printed them out, put a stamp on the envelope, and started to write my mom's name and address on the envelope... and this was about 6 months after her passing.

My condolences, and stay strong. :)

[TJ2389]

wow, I am sorry and I dont even know you. Your family is in my prayers bro.

[ProLogic]

Damn.. If that happened to me I don't know what I would do... I'd go in shutdown mode for weeks probably.. I couldn't imagine this happening. I'm glad you're staying strong.

[jordonwuff]

Hey man.. I will definitely take your advice. I have been a little **** to my parents lately and it puts things into perspective. I'm sorry for your loss and hope the best for you and your family.

--Jordon

[wnt2gitswoll]

I finally met the 'gentleman' who was driving drunk when he did what he did. I reacted in my mind a lot more angstful than I thought I would have. The things I'd do to another, God I can't say. I'm going to be a man about mine though and just control myself on this one. My sister would be disappointed if I went back.

[Chris Rodgers]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. It is a good sign to see you have a very positive outlook on life, something that would be hard to think about at this time. Do your best to keep doing what you love. Make sure not to hold back your feeling and to confide in your close friends/family as often as possible.


Also, I can't imagine what it would be like to face the person "responsible" for this terrible accident. I'm sure my initial reaction would be to do something that would land me in jail. Just remember that anything you do or say will not help your situation at all and only make things worse for your family/friends. Have faith that his actions will land him in jail where he belongs. I'm sure if he is a human being, he is probably dieing inside for what he knows he has just done. Just as you wish you could turn back time, I'm sure he does too.


God Bless you and your family.

[dpdd]

Sorry for your loss.

[Daniel Clough]

So sorry for your loss and my thoughts go out to you, they really do.

[RedSpikeyThing]

I got a chill reading that. I never know what to say when I hear these kinds of things, other than "sorry". But I promise I mean it.