Does anyone know of any good Sexual Health forums?

[Cali4niaFitness]

i have some questions....that arent suitable for this board..
do any of you know any good sexual health forums?

[razorcut]

Fire away. It can be kept mature here when needed.

[Gyno Rhino]

PM me with your question. I'll let you know if it's suitable or not.

As razorcut said, we can keep it mature here - it's simple: those that can't behave don't get to come back.

If you have a real question with real purpose - go ahead and post. You may just be asking a question that half the guys/gals here also want to ask but haven't the guts to do so.

[Cali4niaFitness]

Ok thanks guys i really appreciate it, ^ gyno rhino ive pMed you with the question please pm me back with any help you can give and if its ok to post it on here sothat other people might be able to help out if they can.

[Paul Stagg]

But asking the same question you asked before where the answer could be found in any 9th grade health class is a bad idea.

[Gyno Rhino]

Your question is fine - it is a subject that can and will be discussed with maturity on the boards.

[Cali4niaFitness]

But asking the same question you asked before where the answer could be found in any 9th grade health class is a bad idea.

its related but here it goes:


I am only 19 and i have been finding that it is difficult for me to maintain and get an erection without CONSTANT stimulation. also i find that i have lack of morning wood, often its only semi erect probably 30%. and i hear guys get random erections 10+ times a day but i hardly ever do.

here are a list of my problems

1.)Say for example i am with a girl , if i am not masturbating the entire time or if she is not sexually stimulating me the entire time, i lose my erection fast, sometimes its hard for me to get it up in the first place.
its so frustrating because i hate for her to feel i am inadequate .

I thought at first it might be sexual anxiety and that im so preoccupied with the anxiety that it prohibits me from enjoying the situation but i notice even when im at home watching porn in the comfort of my own home, when im all alone...i STILL have this problem.

2.)There have been many times where im watching porn and i dont even get an erection unless i provide constant stimulation, if i stop touching myself the erection will go away fast.


I have no idea why i have this problem, but i narrowed it down to some possible reasons. prostatitis or chlamydia?

3.) i noticed back in july-august whenever i urinated or ejaculated it would be followed by an itchy stinging sensation at the tip of my penis. also the area between my scrotum and anus would be extremely itchy and i think a bit inflamed. the itchiness in this region stopped around september and the stinging sensation after urinating also stopped around this time without any sort of treatment, but the stinging sensation after ejaculation is still there but its very mild...

I read that these are all symptoms of mild prostatitis and/or chlamydia? and i googled this and read that these two diseases can cause difficulty to maintain and/or get an erection...


also i just read another thread on a urology board
and the general consensus was overmasturbation (Which i can honestly say i was a victim of) can cause prostitis like symptoms...

Can anyone else who has more insight direct me please i am so frustrated and worried.??!




PLEASE help or redirect me to someone or someplace that can

should i go to my doctor or find a STD testing center??? i doubt its a STD though im just wondering if anyone else has had this problem..

[Built]

Can you maybe aaahhh.... take a break from yourself for a few days and see what happens?

[Gyno Rhino]

What if he has, and he still has this problem?

I'm asking because many men on this site have problems just like this, but they're too embarassed to post it.

I applaud the OP here. There's nothing to be ashamed about when this kind of thing is happening - it's not your fault (likely) and it does negatively impact your life.

[Paul Stagg]

Without a doubt, you need to go see a doctor.

Prostatitis doesn't sound right to me based on your description.

This could be in your head, it could be a physical problem, it could be a combination. Regardless, go see a doc (urologist). Describe it exactly as you have here.

[Gyno Rhino]

I've had prostatitis - I had some pretty nasty pain during ejaculation.

Sounds to me like your problem though, is likely mental or hormonal.

[razorcut]

Sounds to me like your problem though, is likely mental or hormonal.I agree 100%. The consistent lack of morning erections is somewhat worrisome for a hormonal problem. To the OP, what's your libido like?

[Cali4niaFitness]

I agree 100%. The consistent lack of morning erections is somewhat worrisome for a hormonal problem. To the OP, what's your libido like?



its pretty good. i mean being horny is not the problem its what i mentioned above.....


let me ask people on the board this.. do you guys who consider yourself "normal" actually have 10+ more random erections throughout the day? or is this just a fib that guys tell each other?



gyno rhino how did you get prostatitis? and were u able to cure it? did u find trouble with erections while u had prostatitis?

[Gyno Rhino]

No, I doubt that I get 10+ random erections per day.

I am not normal, though. Many health issues cloud all of my statistics, so I can't be taken as a standard case.

Cured the prostatitis with dioxycycline (antibiotic). And yes, I had trouble with them while the prostatitis was going on - but more from the mental standpoint. When you know ejaculating hurts like bloody hell, you tend to not want sex much.

[Jorge Sanchez]

I certainly don't get 10 random erections during my waking hours. I might get 10 a day, but even then I doubt it.

When I'm with a girl I often don't get a full-on erection (especially if it is the first time with her) until there is some sort of stimulation either, although I don't have a problem getting it up at that point, and once it's up, it's up. I always chalked it up to nervousness.

Personally, if I couldn't get it up I would worry more about the girl feeling inadequate than her thinking that I am inadequate.

[Cali4niaFitness]

I certainly don't get 10 random erections during my waking hours. I might get 10 a day, but even then I doubt it.

When I'm with a girl I often don't get a full-on erection (especially if it is the first time with her) until there is some sort of stimulation either, although I don't have a problem getting it up at that point, and once it's up, it's up. I always chalked it up to nervousness.

Personally, if I couldn't get it up I would worry more about the girl feeling inadequate than her thinking that I am inadequate.



see thats the thing youre saying once u get it up it stays up right?


alot of the time when im on my own i dont have a problem getting it up but even then i have to provide constant stimulation otherwise it dies quick

[Cali4niaFitness]

No, I doubt that I get 10+ random erections per day.

I am not normal, though. Many health issues cloud all of my statistics, so I can't be taken as a standard case.

Cured the prostatitis with dioxycycline (antibiotic). And yes, I had trouble with them while the prostatitis was going on - but more from the mental standpoint. When you know ejaculating hurts like bloody hell, you tend to not want sex much.

how did u acquire prostatitis? is it linked with a STD?

[Chris686]

The 10 erections a day thing is a fib IMO. Perhaps this is true with young guys in middle school/early high school, but at your age something like this should probably not be happening.

[d'Anconia]

K I'm also 19 and a.) I usually don't wake up with morning wood, and b.) I definitely do not get 10 RANDOM erections a day. Otherwise everything seems to work just fine. When I masturbate but for whatever reason stop stimulating myself, I usually START to lose the erection within 7 or 8 seconds or so.

When I'm with a girl though, I'm pretty sure I can maintain an erection for a longer time without stimulation BUT not THAT much longer and if I'm moving around a lot I tend to lose it more quickly. Never had pain during ejaculation though, unless I've already orgasmed like 3 times earlier that day.

Out of curiosity how many times do you usually masturbate a day? Anyway in general I don't think you should rate your penis's health on a.) whether or not you get morning wood, b.) how many random erections you get a day, or c.) how quickly the erection goes away when not being stimulated during a masturbation session.

You might as well go see a doctor so that you can at least scratch out those possibilities. Otherwise I just think you need to stop worrying about it so much and just have fun letting chicas stimulate you :moon:

[Gyno Rhino]

how did u acquire prostatitis? is it linked with a STD?

I got it post surgery. I have no STDs.

[razorcut]

its pretty good. i mean being horny is not the problem its what i mentioned above.....


let me ask people on the board this.. do you guys who consider yourself "normal" actually have 10+ more random erections throughout the day? or is this just a fib that guys tell each other?



gyno rhino how did you get prostatitis? and were u able to cure it? did u find trouble with erections while u had prostatitis?
A few things:
If your libido is adequate, it's doubtful a hormonal problem.

I'd have to say I don't get 10+ "random erections" a day. I find it hard to believe that's normal.

Prostatitis comes in a few different forms....some chronic and some more acute. It *typically* doesn't cause problems with attaining or maintaining erections. It often does cause painful ejaculation. Here's a good review from the mayo clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/prostatitis/DS00341/DSECTION=2

[twisteddendrite]

I agree with Paul, see a urologist.
The erection problem may be a physical problem, it does not sound hormonal since you have normal desire.
You may want to try a penis ring to help maintain erection.

The burning at the end of your penis after ejaculation may be ureathritis from your self stimulating.

This is one of the most common sexual ailments in men. Although erectile dysfunction can be primarily psychological in origin, for most men it's more likely a physical disorder, often with some psychological overlay

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/Erection.htm

[HILL]

Im also 19 and certainly dnt get 10 erections a day not random ones anyway. Also i find that if i stop masterbating or stop fr a while in bed with a girl my erection will go away as well at some point. My trick is if i know im getting some or the possibility is their ill masturbate once earlier in the day this helps me personally last much/much/much longer and keep an erection. its something i learned while having a g/f for 3 years and am putting to good use now im single maybe something for you to try

[Bohizzle]

I agree with those that say to go see a urologist. I'm also 19, and although having 10 random erections is unlikely i think what guys mean by that when they say it is that sometimes when ur just sitting in class and u start thinking of stuff u'll get an erection, and they may just be over exaggerating (sp?). However, I have no problems getting it up, or staying up, but after repeated ejaculations my tip starts to hurt a little but i'm pretty sure it's just sore from all the friction. All in all, the best thing for u to do is to go to a urologist and get it checked out.

Andrew

[Sidior]

like everyone else said, go see a urologist

[shansen008]

If the problem is psychological, seeing the urologist will help alleviate some of the anxiety associated with not knowing what the problem is. That could be your cure right there.

Take a look at your stress level as well, stress can seriously impact sexual function. Sometimes stress can affect you at a subconscious level, and doesnt even have to be someting bad....getting married is high on the stress scale, but is not a bad thing.

Look at all the simplest things first, the problems usually lie there. For instance, have you checked your blood pressure? High/abnormal blood pressure can make it difficult to get and maintain an erection. Next time you know youre going to be with a girl, take a low dose of aspirin (81mg) and a 1-2g of Arginine, if you notice a big difference then your problem is most likely bp related. If this is the case then start looking at your diet/family history/stress factors.

[Cali4niaFitness]

^ my father has diabetes...and yea when im with this girl its high stress because she is so beautiful like i would probably give her a 10/10 ive never been with someone that hot. i was really anxious and nervous. i never noticed my erections being a problem until after i messed around with this girl...i guess i never payed attention to it much


what is arginine?? are there any side effectS?



im glad to know im not the only one who doesnt maintain a constant erection if there isnt stimulation...


does anyone on here maintain an erection even if they dont get any sort of stimulation??

[Praetorian]

www.afraidtoask.com

the name says it all.

I had something similar going on last week, and in my case it was just mental. You need to relax, don't make a big fuzz about it. I took some time off from any sexual stimuli, drugs and got myself some zinc and magnesium tablets. After a couple of days my super-soldier was ready for duty.

Yes, I can maintain an erection without any sort of stimulation.

[Cali4niaFitness]

www.afraidtoask.com

the name says it all.

I had something similar going on last week, and in my case it was just mental. You need to relax, don't make a big fuzz about it. I took some time off from any sexual stimuli, drugs and got myself some zinc and magnesium tablets. After a couple of days my super-soldier was ready for duty.

Yes, I can maintain an erection without any sort of stimulation.


what kind of problems were you having last week?
u can maintain an erection without any sort of stimulation now, what about last week?

[d'Anconia]

^ LOL if you want to find out then check out the 'Recreational Drug Thread' (there's a hint).

BTW I'm going to venture and say that most guys will not get an erection without stimulation. Biologically thinking it's a bad idea as the genitalia is more prone to injury while erect. Your body will save that risk for when you are about to mate

In the end, try not to be so stressed out.

[-TIM-]

I would do as suggested and see a doctor. I would also get an STD test since you're obviously active, haven't had one before, and are experiencing symptoms of an STD.

I wouldn't be surprised if your lack of ability to get, or maintain, an erection is mental. Sexual performance can have a lot to do with your state of mind. If you're constantly having anxiety about getting an erection, then you're probably going to have problems getting one. It might even be beneficial to talk to your partner and let her know what's going on. That might relieve some off the mental load and allow you to break free of this.

Either way, see a doctor sooner than later.

[TwiloMike]

I'm concerned about the itching/pain after urination and in the taint area. I would do a full battery of tests. Not to freak you out but some STDs are known to lose their initial symptoms once they get past a certain stage but that isn't a good thing.

I don't always wake up with morning wood though it's more common for me to have it than not. 10 random erections a day are not in my experience. Half a dozen are probably on the high end.

[BCC]

10 random erections? That's it?

[-TIM-]

10 random erections? That's it?10 a day? Ha, maybe when I was 15. Have just a wee bit more control than that now. I remember being a freshman and always sporting wood around 2nd period. Those were the days. :p

[USN1981]

dude, lay off the porn and go celibate for a month.

have you ever heard the phrase "Pornography rapes the mind", its like a drug man, get off it.

your sex life will improve 150%, i promise you.

[Built]

10 random erections? That's it?


*Call me*

[Canadian Crippler]

Yeah, 10 random erections is inflated. I don't think I could get any more horny than I am and I don't get random erections, let alone 10.