Your woman nekkid. Too much? Or too much SEXY?

[Hatred]

Scandalous I know!
It is a legitimate question of mine though. My woman mentioned something to me months ago about reading an article surrounding women that do a good job of keeping the spark alive keep a certain amount of "mystery" about them.
They don't let their men see them get ready, shower, etc.
This makes a lot of sense to me.
This seems sexier than a woman that you live with pulling a "Kramer"into the bathroom and dropping a deuce while you shower, giggling manically.
Call me crazy I know.


My question is this. Men, does your lady keep the mystery alive and just let you believe she just magically appears ready?
Ladies, do you keep certain parts of your process a secret to keep the spark?
or do you come barreling into a room wearing just socks and do the Charleston?

What's it REALLY like out there? I saw a recent article in Cosmo while I was pooping..

OK I grabbed it off the coffee table and decided I needed to poop afterwards to read it in private. Shut up.
It's like reading enemy propaganda.
Discuss.

[dynamo]

I like to take charge, if she comes home and is exhausted from work or whatever and I'm there and I want some, I just tell her to come here, maybe I kiss her, maybe I don't. Sometimes I'll let her unwind a little and eat something or whatever. I find she most likely needs foreplay so I offer that up, and foreplay doesn't need to be touching it can be a push pull sexual tension thing. Maybe shes talking about pretzel sticks and how great they are, and I will say something that is a double entendre and keep talking and get real close, like i'm about to kiss her, and then ask if she wants something to drink. Then just take the lead and bring her to the shower, help her relax and then have some great fun.

I see no reason why she needs to keep anything mysterious, its kind of irritating and if I wanted mystery I'd go gawk at women walking down the street. What I want is a woman who is open, not afraid to try new things and the sexiest thing about a woman is her willingness to grow within the relationship.

Do I find it sexy when she wants something and takes it? sure. do I expect it? no, if I want to bang, I want to bang, and I will make her want to bang too.

[razorcut]

My question is this. Men, does your lady keep the mystery alive and just let you believe she just magically appears ready?

No. Mine does not.

Hatred....where the f have you been?

[Hatred]

Thank you Dynamo,
Would anyone else that actually read the post like to chime in? lol

Razorcut,
Best I can tell you is check out the journal,so I don't railroad this topic. Whatever I disclose there will be just scratching the surface.
One, most of you assholes are on Facebook,
and I was just kind of "maintaining" when it came to my physique. Except I wasn't.
Two,
I just haven't had time. When I participate here I go all in and that's dangerous.
( I'm being unproductive as I type this. see?)

[JSully]

My wife never poops with the door open, it makes me lawl all the time because I do and I could care less.

every once in a while she will "dress up" for me, but since I just rip it off in 3 seconds anyways, there's really no point. I want a woman that struts around the house nekkid, which is very infrequently now with a child in the house. I like to see/watch her showering and I like when she sleeps in the nude. I agree with dynamo. If I wanted to look at someone with clothes on, I'd walk outside.

I also find it hella sexy when she wants it and she comes onto me, however as men, we all know this happens a mere 5% of the time, if we're lucky.

On a side note, a good thing to keep the spark alive is switching to and from condoms. This sounds terrible, but since we had a baby and my wife was breastfeeding, she couldn't be on that BC so condoms were a must. We recently got rid of the condoms and I swear, it's like the first 3 months of our relationship all over again, I haven't got any action this consistently in years. haha

[Hatred]

LOL, the answer you gave me probably isn't the answer you think you gave me. Thanks!

[JSully]

My question is this. Men, does your lady keep the mystery alive and just let you believe she just magically appears ready?

no. she doesn't just magically appear ready. there is no mystery to how she prepares, the only mystery is the timeline.

better straight forward for you? lol

[Hatred]

I think you misconstrued what I was saying, which is understandable.
It's like this.
If a man sees the same chick naked, all the damn time, in all manner of unsexiness; it becomes par for the course, unexciting, and the spark dies out.

Make it a rare occasion, and it becomes desirable. If you like Butterfingers, and you eat them 3 times a day you are going to get sick of them. Period.

I'm dating a 23 yr old that punches me in the shoulder if I fall asleep without putting out though. I'm certain circumstances vary here, but hey, it's probably how she's kept me faithful, by being more of an Animal than I am.
My point is: Naked Goofballs aren't sexy. Kinda like how bursting into a room and doing the Dick Helicopter never turned a single soul on.

[ncsuLuke]

Kinda like how bursting into a room and doing the Dick Helicopter never turned a single soul on.

One of the greatest lines I have ever read on here.

I like your theory here, haven't really thought of it before but it definitely could make some sense.

[Hatred]

Thanks!
I'm full of em.
I can't claim ownership of the theory though. I guess it's a long-standing French women's principle.
Hell, it's one of the articles that Cosmo recycles and re-words every few months it's such a hot topic.

I'm going on two years with my lady, and I'm still nuts about her. It's come up a few times, (she actually brought it up once first. then I saw the article)
I'd like to make sure how it started and, has been, how it will be. so I can keep this:

around, and anything BUT mundane.
Yes that's OG. Marvel. Rogue.

[JSully]

why not show the other half of that photo?

you look so silly next to her, hahaha.. err, uh, yeah.. no offense buddy

on a side note, you read an awful lot of cosmo, josh.

super hawt girlfriend + dude that reads cosmo = ghey but hasn't come out yet..

burn.


back on topick, congrats for going 2 years. Really happy for you, you've had some shitty relationships in the past. Wish I would have had time to hang out when I was in San Francisco in september. I'll be there again next year, we'll make it happen fsho.

[Alex.V]

I think you misconstrued what I was saying, which is understandable.
It's like this.
If a man sees the same chick naked, all the damn time, in all manner of unsexiness; it becomes par for the course, unexciting, and the spark dies out.

Make it a rare occasion, and it becomes desirable. If you like Butterfingers, and you eat them 3 times a day you are going to get sick of them. Period.

If it was the chase that turned you on, it'll get boring. If it was the woman, then no.

That's the way I see it anyhow. Put it this way, after you've blown your load, do you still find her hot and wanna be there? If not, yep, you should probably leave. If so, then you've probably got something.

I hear what you're saying, about the demystification and all, especially if you start to equate her being naked with being things OTHER than hot (Say ridiculous, cheesy, whatever)... but that's like anything else once you've been with someone for a while. On the balance, the girl still has to make you want her, because as time goes on you're going to see each other at your worst, and see each other naked at your worst (hospital visits come to mind). Gotta still feel like you want the person, chase or otherwise.

PS- hahahahahahaha dude you read cosmo.

[Hatred]

Jake,
That's hers from her FB profile pre cropped because I do in fact look fucking ridiculous.
I got MAYBE an hour out of the Colossus costume before I PigPenned everything around me with silver makeup.

And screw you both.
Cosmo is awesome!
I equate it to selling a product.
How does a salesperson become lethal?
They learn everything they can about the competition, and get to know them inside and out.

So when I get a bunch of stupid bullshit lobbed at me I know where it came from and how to deal with it.
Plus I get first dibs at sticking a couple of pages together that I find interesting.
Sometimes when I shit I don't want to play Fruit Ninja because it makes my butthole clench when I get into a good combo streak.
You can see the problem.

[DoUgL@S]

1st, lol at the tangent(s). Very entertaining.

2nd, to answer your question. No, but that's ok.

[thecityalive]

I'd have no problem with that walking around naked. There are other ways to spice things up. Consider how many times you walk about in your boxers or such. Perhaps I've just been really accustomed to human anatomy it really doesn't bother me any more.

[Hatred]

" I'd" as in hypothetical?
I guess I'm looking for input from folks in existing monogamous
Long-term relationships and personal accounts.
Damn people.
Spice ain't an issue. We use women with daddy issues as toys in that arena.

THA QUESTHUN IS:
Does your woman keep her naked body special or does she not give a fuck?
Does she wear a bathrobe when walking around or does she pop zits on her ass in front of you?


Does your family wrap presents in times of gift giving or do you just toss someone a blender and say "have fun or something?"

[thecityalive]

I'd as in I'd have no problem with my girlfriend walking around in a similar fashion. Sorry if that sounded odd.

Mine does cover up, to a degree...bra and panties, sometimes just panties. We are both pretty comfortable with our nudity and each others. I wouldn't dare to see my GF pop zits in front of me, but I do suppose she does keep some of her feminine issues or whatever to her self.

As far as your metaphor is concerned, I feel that it's an unfair comparison...you already know what is in the box, and have played with said gift for a while now, what is the point of wrapping it up and unboxing it every night? Now, you could put said item away in it's own little spot where you put it last, but it doesnt mean you have to get the protective foam, packing peanuts, and wrapping paper to put it away.

[Ness]

For my girlfriend it's a mixed bag. She'll walk around in her underwear sometimes, and her pajamas in other times.