Friends After High School?

**Jane** · 11-12-2002 10:32 PM

Friends forever, tra la la.

All of you older and wiser ones, riddle me this. How many of your closest friends from high school have you kept since then? How difficult was it to stay in touch? What advice do you have for people splitting up in distance but not in heart?

I'm wondering what I should expect once I leave for college.

**Jilla82** · 11-12-2002 10:33 PM

0

**Spawn_X** · 11-12-2002 11:15 PM

0 because i learnt that most friends you have in high school are more like "buddies" you hang out with.

in life you won't have many "friends". buddies? yes. actual friends? probably not.

i keep in touch with uhm 2 people from high school, one via aol and one i visit every month or so.. however i don't consider either one of them my friend.

i only have 1 friend.

but it all depends on you, if the person is someone you would speak to outside of school then by all means keep in touch.

**WillyTheGreat** · 11-12-2002 11:18 PM

One of my cousin's friends (who is probably 10 years older than me) told me one time that all the friends you have in your older years will be the ones you make in college...your high school friends will just fade away.

I never thought it'd be so, but it has been. I hardly do anything with any of the people I was friends with during high school.

**the doc** · 11-12-2002 11:19 PM

jane you will be hearing that freinds forever BS in the next few months. THe truth is you will probably only continue to keep in touch with a few people (with the number decreasing gradually from graduation). THat is just how life works. DOesn't mean that you dont like them

**Man O Steel** · 11-12-2002 11:20 PM

It only being about half a year since I graduated from high school, I can say that most of my "friends" from high school don't keep in touch with me. Only my close friends keep in touch. That's about 7-10 people.

**_-_v_-_** · 11-12-2002 11:22 PM

I have two close friends with whom I keep in close touch.

Neither of them were so much as from my state.

**WillKuenzel** · 11-12-2002 11:27 PM

I just have a few. I close friend whom I still see and talk to quite frequently. Other than that, maybe 2. But that's still 2 more thatn I thought I would. Better friends are made in college.

Have fun with 'em now though. You'll realize who your true friends were after a year in college.

**Craig James** · 11-12-2002 11:36 PM

One of my very best bud's - Chris Mason- is from high school. I room with another good bud from high school. Another one of my good friends is from middle school. It all just depends. I made dear friends in school who I plan on keeping in touch with for many years to come.

**Sayiajin Prince** · 11-12-2002 11:53 PM

friendship is what u put into it.
im in touch with around 20 friends from junior high all the way up to now, and i dont intend to lose them after highskool (none of my close friends are in my highskool)

**Manveet** · 11-13-2002 12:13 AM

I'm with most people on hear, it's hard to keep friends from high school, although I have a couple that I keep in touch with. But then again I just graduated this past summer lol. However, I've made a few "friends" so far in university, we'll see where that ends up

**TreeTrunks** · 11-13-2002 12:16 AM

1, but I hardly ever talk to him or hang out with him. He's had some difficulties lately. Friends come and go. I don;t really see it relaistic to make a lot of friends and this stage in my life seeing as i'll be graduating and getting a job (hopefully) doing God knows what, in God knows where in a year or so. Sorta pointless to get attached and then moving away and never seeing them again. Waste of time.

**seanilles** · 11-13-2002 12:21 AM

Friends are great, for blackmailing, and using, and screwing over. After you're done with one, move onto the next, that way you'll keep your relationships "fresh" and you won't miss your relationships when they come to a bitter end.

**BCC** · 11-13-2002 12:22 AM

Most of my closer friends now are through work.

**Sayiajin Prince** · 11-13-2002 12:22 AM

sure if u like dieing lonely then by all means do so

**orbital** · 11-13-2002 12:26 AM

I'll break the trend. I know a lot of people from high school still, mostly from my grade 8 and 9 years though, I went to 3 different high schools.

**Nights** · 11-13-2002 02:03 AM

I took off to another province a day or two after grad.. so, I kinda lost people by the distance between us. But, I'm still friends with the guy who was my best friend throughout highschool, though I only get to see him every now and then, and I keep in touch with a few others.

But most friends sorta fade away. People I would have died for, would have killed for, two years ago are now no more then acquantances. Don't get me wrong, I still value the time I spent with them (18 years, seeing as I was born and raised with most of them), but time changes things.

**Jane** · 11-13-2002 02:37 AM

Yo kimphead, you hearing this?

Kinda rough to take, isn't it?

**WillKuenzel** · 11-13-2002 02:46 AM

Originally posted by Jane
Yo kimphead, you hearing this?

Kinda rough to take, isn't it?

It may be different depending on your friends and access to the computer too. Many of the people I was friends with in high school didn't have access to some of the things we do. Its tough to call somebody up long distance and stay in touch but its easy to IM and email.

One of my younger friends that just graduated high school still stays pretty close with a lot of her friends. They IM and email constantly so its easier for them to get together when ever they go home. Cell phones have also made a pretty big difference.

Geez, I sound like such an old fart talking about change in technology and the way things were back in my day. High school graduation was only 5 years ago.

**JohnCollins** · 11-13-2002 05:58 AM

Home Yield is right on the money, Jane. You will likely keep in touch with a few more folks because of the computer. Generally, though, I still think 1 or 2 people, 3 would be unusual. Not through college, necessarily, but in your adult life. You might see more HS folks in the summers for a while yet.

It's when you all get out of college and start moving around and life happens that you get out of touch. Becuase you all move away, get busy, start families. I have one high school fellow I still contact, but only about once every 3-4 years. My best friend from college we talk a few time a year and see each other every 3-4 years.

Now if you settle back where you grew up, it's a different story. You might actually keep in touch with many who also stay there. It's the moving around that does it.

You and Kimpster might be the ones, though. Most people only have a handfull of really intimate friendships, because we can only handle that many. Those are the folks you keep in touch with. Good news is you get comfortable with them again in an instant even after many years.

**Tryska** · 11-13-2002 06:04 AM

none. in college you meet much cooler friends.

life is the great equalizer tho.

**Pup** · 11-13-2002 07:17 AM

I keep in touch with a few people from high school, mainly my best friend because we're like connected at the hip, but for the most part you lose touch, sometimes you'll see people you grew up with when you come home for holidays and such, but as T said you make some awesome friends in college.

**IceRgrrl** · 11-13-2002 07:20 AM

Zero. I didn't have many close friends in high school...lots of acquaintances, but not people who I would trust with my true self. After high school people go their separate ways and take a variety of paths to their future so you tend to grow apart anyways.

I found that I met my real friends in college and after college in the activities that I participate in. And also by meeting friends of friends. It seems that the people that I think are neat also have neat friends

**BennettBoy** · 11-13-2002 07:29 AM

Many of my close friends are still folks I went to high school with. I keep in touch with 2 of them on a pretty regular basis via phone calls. We are all die-hard Clemson fans so we talk alot of football.

I have met so many friends here in Columbia that I hang with for 1-2 years and they seem to fade away. It is sad really. But the truth is most folks don't treasure friendships and put very little into a friendship.

I tend to migrate towards folks that I feel I have alot in common with and are just fun to be around. If I find someone to be dorky from the get-go.....I just back away LOL.

**IceRgrrl** · 11-13-2002 07:34 AM

Originally posted by BennettBoy
I have met so many friends here in Columbia that I hang with for 1-2 years and they seem to fade away. It is sad really. But the truth is most folks don't treasure friendships and put very little into a friendship.

I've noticed that too...some friends are long-term, others drift in and out of your life. That used to bother me too, but I think you just have to see it as part of the natural progression of life and not take it personally. People change and go off in different directions (Lately I seem to be losing touch with friends who have kids and get caught up in the family thing, which I have no interest in) and you just have to enjoy the time that you spend with them, wish them well when they/you move on, and treasure the memories.

That being said, friends come and go but enemies seem to accumulate...

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