Magical reappearing X

[pastdoubt]

Have any of you ever had an ex. just mysteriously take an interest in what you are up to? This girl that I dated a while back, who I am absolutely crazy about to this day - wouldn't talk to me, call me back, or answer any of my emails - all of the sudden starts talking to me today. She was asking me about my life, am I dating, and all this other crap that she obviously didn't care about a few months earlier. Talked for hours. But here's the kicker... she decides to tell me about her love life and it seems she is chasing (chasing, her exact words) after this other dude (I used to be friends with him before I met her, he's my age, scrawny, artistic type, still a virgin). I dunno, maybe she is just being friendly now, but it kinda sucks. She's like drop dead gorgeous, and about the only girl I've ever dated who I thought was anywhere near my intelligence (nothing against women, I have a thing for dumb blondes). I held my ground, didn't let it out I still felt like that about her, but I imagine I will probably try to add some fuel to the old flame before it's over with and it will be a stupid mistake.

[Praetorian]

play hard to get.

[WestyHeadbanger]

Play..."Seeya later biatch"

its a new game out now.

[pastdoubt]

LOL

[WillKuenzel]

The X's are bad news dude. My suggestion, run!! She's just using you to get to the other guy. Don't make it any worse on yourself.

It will be a stupid mistake if you pursue it.

[pastdoubt]

Nah, I myself don't actually speak to him anymore. She does... see it's this little game they play w/ each other (she does something wrong, he get's mad, she feels bad, he won't accept her apology, she makes him give in), it's like they do it over and over again. I have had nothing to do w/ either one of them, she just started talking to me out of the blue. I'm pretty sure it is stupid to persue it, I was just asking if anyone has experienced this phenoma before... the reappearing ex.

[WillKuenzel]

I haven't with that one but I'm in a weird case where me and an ex are pretty good friends. Its weird. Nothing else can really be said about it.

Good luck with whatever happens there though.

[WestyHeadbanger]

Actually an ex of mine rang me up to tell me that she got her nose pierced.

I just politely listenned and didnt say much, just what I was upto what she was up to, music etc....

I guess her best friends phone was engaged and she just had to tell someone. Women,.....who gets em?

[K-Daddy]

Yeah, I've had that happen a few times before. They do it for lots of reasons..a couple being that she might know you still like her and wants to reinforce that just a little bit so you won't go getting some other chick (or in other words, convincing herself that she still has you and that she's still wanted by somebody)...or she might hope you'd talked to the guy and you had some information she could use. There are probably lots of other things going through her head...you know how chicks are.

Either way, though, if she wants to contact you, fine...just don't make any effort yourself. Don't support her ego because if she's "chasing" this guy then she's feeling a little unwanted because she can't have him. You're right that it's stupid to pursue anything with her. Just find something (or someone) to get your mind off her.

-Justin