Do you really want to remain friends after rejection?

[eddie500]

OK, I notice that if I like a girl and would like to try to go further with the girl, and than if I get rejected, I have no desire to remain friends with the girl anymore.
Acually if I get rejected than I like to completly end all contact with the girl.

Its almost like that once I'm rejected I lose that spark.. I don't feel any sexual tension anymore etc. I don't care to really have conversation etc.
I also feel rejected.. and who wants to be around someone that rejected you.

I wanted to know if any of you guys also feel similar here? IF you get rejected do you still try to remain friends or do you like to usually not want to deal with this person anymore?

The way I see it, the only way to have a female friend is either a girl your not interested in. Or a girl that is not available she has a boyfriend or is married. This is if your single of course

[Jabberwocky]

I have some female friends. I feel if I am interested in a girl and she shoots me down, my initial response is I am not gonna be a member of this persons fan club and I cut off contact. This usually happens with girls who are friends with mainly guys.

[Anthony]

I'll let you know when it happens.

[crazedwombat]

yea, i tend to cut them off, after the rejection...it'll be a bit odd for her talkign to you knowing you're undressing her with your eyes and will want to be around you less anyways

[Shao-LiN]

I think some of my better friends are girls who have rejected me or ones that I've gone out with and broken up with.

[BilltheButcher]

Single Guy and single girl can never be friends under the age of 25.

[Praetorian]

You can't be friends with chicks, at least hot chicks that is. There would be too much sexual tension going on. The key is to have a relationship where you are at a stage between friends and sexual prospect.

[Drai's]

I'll let you know when it happens.

I was thinking the same thing .

[AllUp]

The way I see it, the only way to have a female friend is either a girl your not interested in. Or a girl that is not available she has a boyfriend or is married. This is if your single of course

True, or one that is ugly- I know.. brutal, but true. If you have a fem friend that is unattractive(but cool as hell, i.e "like one of teh boys"), doesn't get in the way as she does not technically meet up to hottie/cutie/beddage standards.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with having hot fem friends, just that will always be an issue unless you're already hooked up.

[AllUp]

Personally, I sever all ties with the individual, however the way I figure, her friends are always fair game - all of them.

[Dedicated]

I can be friends with a girl sure. The exception is if she was my girlfriend and we broke up, then it's impossible for me to be friends with her.


As an example, I was friends with a stripper for a few years. I always had a girlfriend so I never messed around with the stripper. The stripper wanted me but she knew I didn't mess around on my girlfriends. I'm not sure what she thought of the whole situation, but we were friends and we hung out all the time.

[BilltheButcher]

As an example, I was friends with a stripper for a few years. I always had a girlfriend so I never messed around with the stripper. The stripper wanted me but she knew I didn't mess around on my girlfriends. I'm not sure what she thought of the whole situation, but we were friends and we hung out all the time.

You think you were friends, but she was trying to bang you.

[spencerjrus]

That's only happened to me once, but yes I cut off all contact with the person.

[Drai's]

You think you were friends, but she was trying to bang you.

Maybe so, but he said they hung out for a few YEARS. Either the girl was really obsessed with getting some from him, or I'd say it would be safe to classify them as friends.

[Wierz]

Not really. Rejection, although not her fault, is pretty much a friendship ending deal. If I tried to take it to the next level, I would know ahead of time that me attempting it was also me putting our friendship at stake - and therefore noone's fault but my own. I would either A) have had a short friendship with her and hooking up was always the ultimate goal or B) keep it in my pants, in the case of I'd rather just have her as a friend.


A outweighs B in my experience so far, 4 to 0.

[AllUp]

Either the girl was really obsessed with getting some from him, or I'd say it would be safe to classify them as friends.

Those types of friends are cool as f*** to hang out with IMHO.

[Drai's]

Those types of friends are cool as f*** to hang out with IMHO.

Not when you have a gf and don't want to cheat on her like in his case.

Otherwise, you're damn right.

[RussianRocket]

this is like a bad episode of friends.

[Riggs]

I cut them off completely because that's just the easiest way to move on without any drama.

[spencerjrus]

Those types of friends are cool as f*** to hang out with IMHO.

Ya hanging out with people who lick your balls while you lead them on knowing nothing serious will ever come out of the relationship is pretty nice.

[crazedwombat]

meh, if she knows from the beginning that nothing serious will come of it but she , like most women, thinks down the road she can change him then its no longer your fault, you just get to enjoy the fun until she realizes that nothing will come of it just like he said a long time ago.

[Progress]

Single Guy and single girl can never be friends under the age of 25.

There is a lot of truth in this. My girl broke up with me and wanted to remain friends but I still had (have) immense emotional feelings for her so I told her I couldn't be friends. While at the same time she claims all the guys she hangs out with are just friends. Oh yeah, I believe her, they are just friends, friends who are guys, single, have asked her out or have taken her out or have taken her out and had intimate contact with her. Yeah, guys like this can just be friends with a girl and have no intent on being with them. .

If I see a girl cute enough to ask out, that is my only intent, I want something more than friends, if she doesn't, I walk away. On the same point, getting dumped after a serious relationship and then possibly being friends is even less realistic to me. Why would I want to see someone who had once expressed such love and adoration toward me to only see them occasionally without that connection any more? Friendship and serious relationships are nowhere near the same level.

Wow, I digress!

[Hatred]

Never happened. However let me offer up a classic barroom example.
" I Was chillin with my homies over there and saw you, I just fo SHO haf to come up over hear and say ..so
WAZZUP?!
Wana get freaky?!
girl: Ew no,go away.....
"You ain't all that anyway you Bitch!! Nice WEAVE!!

Notice that in our subject's case the first reaction to rejection is ANGER.

[Drai's]

Notice that in our subject's case the first reaction to rejection is ANGER.

Definitely. That's obvious though. If you have no intention of being friends with the girl, you may as well make a huge scene at her expense. At least that way you have a story that doesn't start and end with "uhh yeah, I got turned down again "

[Progress]

Definitely. That's obvious though. If you have no intention of being friends with the girl, you may as well make a huge scene at her expense. At least that way you have a story that doesn't start and end with "uhh yeah, I got turned down again "

That's odd. My ex told me a story of a couple of guys who asked her out on a date and she turned them down yet they still want to be friends with her. Hmm... I wonder what their intentions are? If there is one thing I know, guys can be persistent, I know I am.