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The Five Biggest Contradictions in Fitness

Itís no secret that when people contradict themselves, it has the effect of making the flaws in their actions or statements seem glaringly obvious. But what about when WE ourselves get caught contradicting ourselves by someone else?

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    lost girlfriend of 5 years

    well i got the call today... she didn't exactly say she's breaking up with me but
    she said i was not welcome to come and move up with her this summer. Five years of relationship down the tube

    Its a long story as to why, but actually i am somewhat relieved. she had some serious issues. Its funny though, her co workers think she is a bitch, her father and her brother wont speak to her, and she wants to blame all her unhappiness on me.

    well i had enough of that- she's calling me later this week -not sure but i think i'm just gonna say i dont want to talk to you any more. I'm sick of her unstable mental situation

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    Are you really sick of it or are you just angry right now?
    Either way I feel your pain.
    5 years is a long time.
    I hope you cope with this well.
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    "Test all things; hold fast what is good.": 1 Thessalonians 5:21

    "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
    So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God--through Jesus Christ our Lord!"
    Romans 7:14-25

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    thanks
    i think this time i'm sick of it maki

    she doesn't talk to me anymore and i really dont like that in a person
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    this one to

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    Sorry to hear that, when relationships end it sucks and odd to deal with I know I am still dealing with mine.
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    sorry to hear that bro.. doesn't sound like you need her anyways tho.. she may have done ya a favor.
    good luck with ya.
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    Sorry to hear that, man. I know how it is, though. Good luck, and you deserve better than that stuff anyway.
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    thanks y'all. I feel like it might be for the best.

    I just cant believe how different people can become in just a few years...

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    I hear ya. Mine wasn't as long, only 2 years, but sometimes only time can tell if you guys are truly compatible. Better to find out now than 5 years later, ya know?


    BTW, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I am in a much better realtionship now and I found this one without even looking for a gf. Just happened. I'm happy and me and my ex still talk, so it's all good.
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    That's pretty awful. I'm sorry to hear that, man.

    I've never had a relationship quite that long, but I can get some idea on how it feels to seperate from someone that you had once grown so close to. I had a rotten relationship that ended about a year ago (almost to-date), and I was torn up over it for quite some time. When I least expected it, I began to see the girl I am seeing now. She is, by far, the most amazing girl I have ever met, and I feel like the luckiest guy alive to have her, and to be able to hear her say, "I love you" every day. I love her too, and neither of us have ever been happier.

    But if you really sit back and think about it, you know... if we never had bad relationships, and painful endings, we'd never REALLY be able to cherish just how special the good ones are.


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    I had a three year turmoil, year and a half break (for the most part), then got in my current relationship (1.5 years and running). It's a good thing I had that failure of a relationship first, so I know what relationships AREN'T supposed to be like.

    This breakup will make your future relationships muhc better.
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    I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

    Thats what gets me.
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    "Test all things; hold fast what is good.": 1 Thessalonians 5:21

    "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
    So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God--through Jesus Christ our Lord!"
    Romans 7:14-25

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    Originally posted by Maki Riddington
    I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

    Thats what gets me.
    Thank you for putting it into words
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    Originally posted by Maki Riddington
    I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

    Thats what gets me.
    Word to that.

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    yes, word


    you all are right, i know the next one will be better

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    Hey Doc, your a good guy! Things could be worse, well that's what I always think about when times get rough.
    I'm more than positive another one will come along in time.
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    "Soli Deo Gloria"
    "Test all things; hold fast what is good.": 1 Thessalonians 5:21

    "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.
    So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God--through Jesus Christ our Lord!"
    Romans 7:14-25

    "Judo is not about strength. Yet in the learning curve, all Judokas get strong. Only with time do you learn where to apply that strength."
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    Last month in my English class we were reading short stories. Now, I'm not much of a literature buff, but I belive the story was "What we talk about when we talk about love" and I belive the author was Faulkner, but I may be wrong. Anyway, in the story one of the characters is talking about his views of love and brings up the point that you can love someone(ex-girlfreind, ex-wife, etc) and then you break up. What happens to that love? If true love is supposed to be ever-lasting, where does it go? Did you ever really love this person?

    I myself have had a few serious relationships and I felt I would have done anything in the world for these girls. How did that go away and suddenly I can move on and go to another girl? Weird phenomenon.
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    It was written by Carver. Told you I wasn't a literature buff.
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    A lot of times infatuation disguises itself as love. Real love shows when you endure.
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    doc sorry to hear that but as someone previously mentioned....it sounds like she has done you a favor by ending it.
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    Originally posted by Muscle4Christ
    A lot of times infatuation disguises itself as love. Real love shows when you endure.
    True that.

    Sorry to hear about that, man. Really I am. I've been there too... for 2.5 years. It ain't easy, but it's nice knowing that the things people say (About it being for the best) aren't just empty words... they're right.
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    I've been there too bro. I've had two 3 year relationships that failed. It's the worst feeling in the world. Times a great healer and what will be, will be !!!
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    I ve been there too..
    My 3 year realationship failed.. We broke up in January. I ve been in love with her for the last 4 years.. I still love her. It takes time and will power.. Lots of them..

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    are you relieved somewhere in there doc?
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    Sorry to hear that doc, but by the sounds of it you will be far better of without her.

    Time does heal but in certain instances it does leave people very bitter and twisted because of it. I hope everything works out of ok for you


    Originally posted by LATMAN

    BTW, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I am in a much better realtionship now and I found this one without even looking for a gf. Just happened.
    This is very true Chris, recently happened to me and I'm as happy now as I've ever been if not more so
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