but I have to make an emo thread.
My fiancee, who has lived with me for four and a half years without any problems, in a surreal relationship (until we bought a house in Egypt - she can't drive) was contacted online by one of her exes who was not interested in a long term relationship and broke it off with her. Her words are that he broke her heart.
So she talked to him online a few times, and on the phone once all while I was at work over the course of a couple weeks before she told me about it and how confused she was. After talking to me about it she said she had already made up her mind and was staying with me, but she continues to talk to him online and tells him she will call him. For all I know she called him today. She thinks this is all behind my back, but I can find the online messages. I have not gone in to see what she is doing online until she told me this business, because I felt I needed to know what was said.
Tonight I think I am giving her an ultimatum. It is not fair to me to have to work, pay all the bills, and do everything that involves driving anywhere while she talks to this person she still has feelings for behind my back. It seems to me the best idea to tell her that she needs to break off all contact with him, or leave me and be with him, because it is not fair to me, as it affects how she feels about me.
To give a little background, she is an EXTREMELY honest person, moral compass, right and wrong are black and white to her. She has never done anything behind my back before and has always told me about any advances, etc. Anyone have similar experiences or insight? I could use an unbiassed point of view.