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    Senior Member McLaughlin's Avatar
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    My wife got diagnosed with cancer on Tuesday

    F U C K this blows.

    I'm 23, she's 22, and she just got diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer.

    We find out tomorrow if she needs chemotherapy or not.

    So now we're stuck trying to pay 2100/month in rent+bills on my 1500/month salary.

    Cancer's not really something I'd ever thought we'd have to deal with. At least not for another 20-40 years.

    Any of you gone through this?

    Trying not to die young.

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    No, but I wish you luck, and I hope you and your wife make it through ok. Sorry to hear man.

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    wish you all the best man. be strong for your wife

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    Really sorry to hear it man. Dont hesitate to look to family and friends for help. I hope that you guys make it out ok.
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    Sorry to hear about that man, be strong for her and yourself and educate and pull both of yourselves through it...
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    damn man, i'm very sorry to hear this. my mom was diagnosed with very late stage breast cancer. without getting into details, don't trust the doctors and do independent research before making any major decisions re: surgery and treatment. best of luck

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    Im sorry to hear this, Cancer is no joke. My mother has had cancer on 3 different occasions but she has overcome it. Hang in there.

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    My mom went through breast cancer. She's lucked out for the most part and has had really positive experiences with her doctors.

    What type of stage 3 is it (a, b...)?

    Be careful with your research, there is a lot of garbage out there. In an emotionally distraught situation such as yours, try and keep a clear head on your shoulders and if something sounds too good to be true it probably is.

    If you don't like your doctor, don't be afraid to find another one.

    Also, don't get overwhelmed with numbers regarding survival rates. Medical procedures are ever-changing, and just because a study says a person with x cancer has a y% chance of survival, it's more than likely that the data is covering a 5 year or 10 year or even more span, and that the current survival rate for patients with your wife's diagnosis is probably higher.

    Stay positive (easier said than done, I know). But there are countless studies that show how interconnected emotional well-being and cancer treatment outcomes are. Many hospitals have support groups for patients enduring various ailments, this may be something your wife may find helpful.

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    Best of luck and I wish you the best. My counsin was about 30 when he was diagnosed with colon cancer. About a week after he passed away from it. What were her symptoms?
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    Thanks everyone for your kind words

    The cancer is stage 3, I asked about letters A, B, C and the surgeon told me that the ABC was just their old staging system, so the way things are now 1 = A, 2 = B, 3 = C and 4 = D.

    Stage 3 basically means it's broken through the wall and affected the nearby lymph nodes, but it hasn't yet spread to other organs or areas.

    Our surgeon is excellent, very straightforward and honest about everything. Haven't met the oncologist yet but apparently he's a good one (from what the surgeon told us) We'll be meeting him on Tuesday to get a PET scan (like a fancy version of the CAT scan... which made me laugh) and also some genetic testing, and to figure out when we'll start the chemotherapy. (which we found out today that she needs) It'll be 6 weeks of chemo, and 6 weeks recovery, and then the surgery for removal will take place in January.

    Trying not to die young.

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    I hope all goes well!
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    One thing I decided after seeing my brother in-law waste away from Leukemia--if you can afford or have good enough insurance, GO TO THE BEST and go there immediately. Don't base the quality of the treatment on your personal opinion of the doctor.

    Go to MD Anderson (Houston), John's Hopkins (Baltimore), Duke, etc. Research it. Make some calls. Pick one, and go. There's a big difference in treatment when a hospital specializes in something.

    Chemo is unbelievably hard on the body. You only get a few chances before it starts to take its toll. My bro in-law had FOURTEEN rounds of chemo and two stem cell transplants in less than a year. He ended up at MD Anderson the last few months of his life, but he was so diminshed and frail by that time that the only thing he could do was clinical trials.

    You only have one life..one chance to be alive, to live, to experience. Pick the best, even if it costs more or you can't afford it. Her life is priceless to both of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CainMcCloud View Post
    No, but I wish you luck, and I hope you and your wife make it through ok. Sorry to hear man.
    Same here bro, damn bro sux, I wish her the best and hope the $$$ works out okay.

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    Best of luck man, I'll be prayin for ya.
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    I wish you and your wife all the best in dealing with this horrible disease.
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    Im so sorry to hear that man. My girlfriend's and my prayers are out for you two.
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    Sorry to hear...hope everything goes well.
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    Like mrelwodowd said, try and get her in the best institution possible!

    My mother is battling leukemia now, she first went to Georgetown where they were going to put her through the regular run of the mill treatment. She actually ended up transferring to Johns Hopkins University Hospital where they continued the first treatment... it didn't work, she came out of remission. She is now undergoing a treatment that is not yet approved by the FDA, BUT it seems to be working

    Explore all possibilities, and I hope your insurance will pick up a large portion, the co-pays alone will eat your bank account dry.

    Best wishes.
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    I wish you two well in the upcoming months. Stay strong.

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    Sorry to hear about your wife having cancer and at such a young age...God be with you all and your families.

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    I wish you and your wife the best of wishes. Make sure you find the best medical care you can. Eat as healthy as possible and spend as much time together as possible.
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    Best of luck to you and your wife, man. Stay strong with her and you both can pull through it and live a long and happy life.
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