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    Creepy Guy at the Gym

    There is this guy at the gym that keeps staring and lurking around the machines I work out on. Usually I just smile and nod… (I alway wear headphone when I work out alone). The other night he followed me to my car. I was so nervous because I though he was going to try to get in the car with me. He introduced him self to me, and everytime I tried to walk away he would start talking. Last night I was doing abs and he was waiting on me to finish. Even though my abs were screaming I didn't stop until he walked away

    Tonight I dread going back in there because I'm afraid he'll be there. This sucks!!!! I can't enjoy my workout because of this guy. Normally I don't mind visiting with people, but this guy is just strange. I talked to the manager of the gym about him, and he has had other complaints about the same guy, so this isn't my imagination… although I have a very vivid one.
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    Have you said something to him to make it very clear that you do not want to talk and do not want to socialize with anyone from the gym?

    If this guy is in fact harassing/stalking you, the first thing you must do is to make it very clear to him that the attention is unwelcome and you want it to stop. If he persists, then you can take any possible next steps.

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    Sorry, I'll try to behave myself from now on.



    Seriously, though...


    Usually I just smile and nod…
    HUGE mistake(Not that it excuses his behavior. But this isn't gonna help.) As Icer suggests, tell him in no uncertain terms that his attention is unwanted. Hopefully, he'll get the hint.

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    thats messed up. Throw a 45 at him.
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    and BOOM goes the dynomite!

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    I agree with Ice.

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    Hey, the good thing about being at the gym when this happens is that there should be a bunch of big guys there to watch out for you if you really should need it. Try to befriend someone that you normally see there the same times as you, and tell him about the creep. Most likely, (if you go to a gym like mine) this guys will have a bunch of buddies right behind him looking out for you. Good luck girl! And if it gets really bad, think about putting mace on your keychain so you feel safer walking to your car alone.
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    I always get myself in trouble, because I hate to be rude to people. I guess I'm just going to have to say something. Although I like the 45# DB suggestion the best.

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    Originally posted by DixieChick
    I always get myself in trouble, because I hate to be rude to people.
    I know exactly how you feel girl! I'm that same way sometimes, like last week this freak was following me around at the club the entire time I was there, and I felt too bad to tell him to leave me alone, so I had a horrible night and still avoid his calls. We just need to learn to tell them straight up to leave us alone! lol
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    Originally posted by DixieChick
    I always get myself in trouble, because I hate to be rude to people. I guess I'm just going to have to say something. Although I like the 45# DB suggestion the best.
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    Originally posted by BabeinTraining

    like last week this freak was following me around at the club the entire time I was there, and I felt too bad to tell him to leave me alone, so I had a horrible night and still avoid his calls. lol
    Uh, how'd he get your phone #?

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    Originally posted by Blood&Iron

    Uh, how'd he get your phone #?
    Again, I was too nice to give him the wrong number. Heck, what if I ran into him there again? What would I say??
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    Re: Creepy Guy at the Gym

    Originally posted by DixieChick
    There is this guy at the gym that keeps staring and lurking around the machines I work out on. Usually I just smile and nod… (I alway wear headphone when I work out alone). The other night he followed me to my car. I was so nervous because I though he was going to try to get in the car with me. He introduced him self to me, and everytime I tried to walk away he would start talking. Last night I was doing abs and he was waiting on me to finish. Even though my abs were screaming I didn't stop until he walked away

    Tonight I dread going back in there because I'm afraid he'll be there. This sucks!!!! I can't enjoy my workout because of this guy. Normally I don't mind visiting with people, but this guy is just strange. I talked to the manager of the gym about him, and he has had other complaints about the same guy, so this isn't my imagination… although I have a very vivid one.
    Is this guys name Jame "Buffalo Bill" Gumb?

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    It's not about "being nice," it's being cautious about your personal security...prolly not a good idea to give your number to someone you really don't know, esp if he gives you the willies...

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    babeinTraining- lol you could say you werent interested in him, and not give him your number in the first place or something. but i know what you mean about the "too nice" thing. i get that way sometimes too.

    DixieChick- that is kinda scary. just give him the heads up that you go to workout.. strictly to lift and stuff. then maybe he will back off and let you work. maybe he just wants to give you tips or something.. i have no idea.
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    i once gave the # to some girl in the gym and she called me ~20 times a day for about 2 months, without ever saying anything either. i wish the phone i had at the time had a block function.

    I actually saw her a while ago in a local (kinda wrong) club and she was all shy and emberassed for the way she had acted...

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    Originally posted by IceRgrrl
    It's not about "being nice," it's being cautious about your personal security...prolly not a good idea to give your number to someone you really don't know, esp if he gives you the willies...
    It wasn't really that he gave me the willies, just that he was an annoying loser is all. He wasn't some creepy guy like Dixie's, just some annoying little "boy".
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    Originally posted by Reinier
    i once gave the # to some girl in the gym and she called me ~20 times a day for about 2 months, without ever saying anything either. i wish the phone i had at the time had a block function.

    I actually saw her a while ago in a local (kinda wrong) club and she was all shy and emberassed for the way she had acted...
    See these are the same losers that are attracted to me, do I have "COME TO ME IF YOU'RE DESPERATE" tattooed on my forehead, or what!
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    lol i think i have pedophile on mine. i attract a lot of girls 13-14 yr old. i guess thats what a lot of guys my age do, mess around with little gals but it aint my bag at all. both not cuz its against my standards and cuz im not attracted to them

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    Originally posted by Reinier
    lol i think i have pedophile on mine. i attract a lot of girls 13-14 yr old. i guess thats what a lot of guys my age do, mess around with little gals
    hmmm...reminds me of a certain member....nevermind :evillaugh
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    implying to me Babe....? tuttut

    anyway..Dixie...this sounds like scary shiat... I tihnk that you should tell this guy to back off and if he doesn't go tell the police or let some of the big guys in your gym take 'care' of this dude...

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    This is the ONLY time I will warn you.

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    hahaha LMAO good one Kaixuan...

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    dixie chick that was me at the gym....sorry i was jus being social ;(
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    Turn to this guy, look him deep in the eyes and say "you wanna know a secret?"
    Then whisper in his ear "I used to be a man."
    Then turn and walk away
    He'll never bother you again : )
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    For this reason I try not to talk to girls at my gym. I don't like being bothered when I am training, and I always assume the girls don't wanna be bothered either. Though it is hard not to be tempted, especially when some of the girls wear very nice outfits.
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