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    Can you respect someone but not respect their opinions?

    This was something I was thinking about today.Someone told me that they don't and won't ever respect some of my opinions.But that he doesn't have anything against me personally.

    Well IMO it's impossible to not respect someone's opinion but still respect that person.Because by not respecting their opinions you are in fact disrespecting them.

    I mean I don't agree with some of the opinions of most(if not all of the members)of the board.As I'm sure you do with me.But we still respect each other & that person's opinions.

    For example,I(for obvious reasons)do not & will never agree with the opinions of small minded people like the KKK.And although I do not respect them it's not because of their opinions it's because of the lack of respect they show to others who don't follow their philosophy.I will always respect someone's opinion,even if I don't agree with it.However I will not respect someone who will not show me that same respect back.

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    Maybe he meant accept your opinions???

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    Originally posted by Ritzol
    Maybe he meant accept your opinions???
    No he says he accepts my right to have an opinion different then his own but that he'll never respect that opinion.

    Like I said I feel it's impossible to respect someone but not respect their opinion.

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    a concrete example might make this easier to judge/respond-to

    at first blush though, I don't see the respect issue being a zero-sum game

    I can think of two people in my life jsut off the top of my head, who I respect greatly as individuals, for their achievements, their values and their contributions, yet I totally don't respect a couple of specific stances/opinions/attitudes they display

    the blanket statement your friend has made implies not an issue of respect but of a certain dogmatism or prejudice on HIS part (assuming he's not referring to a universally morally repugnant opinion you may hold)

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    Originally posted by Callahan
    the blanket statement your friend has made implies not an issue of respect but of a certain dogmatism or prejudice on HIS part (assuming he's not referring to a universally morally repugnant opinion you may hold)
    First off he's not really a friend he's a member of a club/message board I belong to

    Secondly his thoughts on my opinions are based off of an extremely small issue.It's not universerally morally repugnant,I just have a different view on this issue.

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    It's quite possible. For example there are a couple of people on this very message board, who I respect, but not their opinions. No names (they know who they are). Just because you don't agree with someone's opinion, doesn't mean you can't be friends or at least discuss things in a civil and cordial fashion (thus showing respect for the person). For example when I post a contradictory view, almost always I talk about the post and what is wrong with it. I try to keep name-calling and inflamatory comments out of it. Instead of saying "you're wrong" I usually try to say "that is wrong".


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    Re: Can you respect someone but not respect their opinions?

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    Well IMO it's impossible to not respect someone's opinion but still respect that person.Because by not respecting their opinions you are in fact disrespecting them.
    You aren't telling us anything here. This won't make sense until you tell us what you mean by the word "respect." I can think of several different ways to interpret what you just said there.
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    Originally posted by ExtremeAnabolic
    Just because you don't agree with someone's opinion, doesn't mean you can't be friends or at least discuss things in a civil and cordial fashion (thus showing respect for the person).
    There's a big difference between disagreeing with an opinion & not respecting an opinion.

    a)When you disagree this often leads to an intelligent debate
    b)When you don't respect a person's individual opinion you aren't respecting that person.In my experience people who don't respect my opinion are rude,arrogant people.

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    While it is possible, I think it is very difficult for a lot of people to make that separation, especially when talking about very touchy issues (i.e. drugs, politics, relationships, religion, etc). I think that the ability to separate the two is directly proportional to intelligence. In my experience, while truly intelligent people are more strongly opinionated, they are also more understanding of differences. At any rate, if someone is going to judge me based on my opionion on a single issue, I would rather not associate with that person.
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    Does this thread have a point besides arguing pointless semantics and giving me the nigh-irresistible urge to start making smart-ass flames?
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    Respect is irrelevant.

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    Does this thread have a point besides arguing pointless semantics and giving me the nigh-irresistible urge to start making smart-ass flames?
    Powerman, I think you should show a little more respect for people's opinions.
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    if the person isnt really a friend then **** what he thinks anyways

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    Very possible.
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    Can you respect someone but not respect their opinons?










    Of course.......married people do it all the time.
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    Logicly you can respect someone as a person and not for their ideas or opinions. There is more to a person than that. So it is not impossible and is statement is sound.
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    respect is something that should be earned and not just freely given. Its kinda hard to describe it, like ; I am for freedom of speech and accept everyones opinion, but it doesnt mean that i have too respect the opinion to the guy on the street. But im not prejugdical either, i dont jugde off hand.
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    In my honest opinion

    If you do not respect someone's opinion, then you simply cannot respect the individual because you are saying their thoughts aren't worth respecting.Afterall differing opinions are what makes us human & is a part of being an individual.

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    how do you define respect?

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    In this particular context of what I'm regering to

    I'd say respect in the sense of respecting someone's opinion would be to

    a)Accept,listen & try to understand the other person's viewpoint
    b)To disagree and state why you disagree but doing it in an adult way without resorting to childish insults.And making the person feel small and stupid.

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    in that case i agree, but respect to me is somethig more then those things you stated.

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    You ever think that he may have simply meant "I don't like where you're coming from", rather than being all dramatic (and technical) about the term "respect"?

    How about you go ask him.
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    ask him about it? jesus you mean communicate with him about the problem?????

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    I think the term respect can only be applied to something tangible, not intangible. You can respect a person, you can respect the power of a tornado, you cannot respect an idea, you can appreciate it, understand it, agree with it, or disagree with it, respect is not a factor. This is all semantics anyway, as others have said. No need to be overly sensitive.
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