This question was suggested by Chrisconnell85's post. I was wondering what people mean by 'casual sex' and the term 'hitting it'? The rest of this post may be a bit long and rambling as I think about sex a lot, lol I'm a guy so sue me, and much of that will go into my question/confusion.
When I hear the term 'casual sex' or 'hitting it' I think of two people who are not in a relationship but having sex. I use 'relationship' here in a very broad sense, meant to include such things as friends-with-benifits situations and married couples. I was wondering if this seems accurate?
I understand that many people have different criteria for the terms under consideration. My gf is someone who is 'waiting for marriage', though niether her nor I are virgins she has rededicated herself to this and I am supportive of it, though it is not a choice I make for myself. It seems to me that much of how people define 'casual sex' and 'hitting it' depends on thier views on what sex is and how it should be or be thought of.
In my experience those people who view sex as something very special, inherently valuable and having some intrinsic worth, then casual sex can come to mean any kind of sex outside of a seriously commited relationship.
I view sex as a fun act, having no intrinsic value or worth beyond the pleasure it brings. Now, hear my explanation before I get barbecued alive by the flames. I think that the intrinsic value which most people think sex has is due not to the physical act but to the emotional weight we place upon the act. It is this emotional cost which we charge, and which is placed there by those involved which causes us to think there is some intrinsic worth to the act beyond the physical pleasure. So I make the distinction between the emotional content of an act and the physical content of the act. It seems to me that sex is an act, just that and nothing more. But it is an act which we often associate intense emotions with.
Thus it is these intense emotions which have the intrinsic value rather then the act itself. An example; If someone just has casual sex with another person that does not imply any emotional bond. However in a relationship it is the emotions which cause us to get into sexual situations. Do people think this is a valid distinction? Between the act of sex and the emotions involved? It seems so to me. Im my own experience some none sexual acts can have much more emotional cost/benifit. Something as simple as a kiss can mean much more then sex sometimes, if there is emotion and a bond behind it or associated with it.
What does everyone else think? How do you Define 'casual sex'? and do you think sex as an act has some intrinsic value over and above the physical?
P.s. I do not mean to sound like I dissapprove of casual sex, what ever the definition. I am not someone who can engage in in, I just don't know what to say to get girls to want that, to much of a dork I guess. However it is a phenomenon which interests me in that it is an act which often has intense emotional meaning, but sometimes doesn't.