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The Five Biggest Contradictions in Fitness

Itís no secret that when people contradict themselves, it has the effect of making the flaws in their actions or statements seem glaringly obvious. But what about when WE ourselves get caught contradicting ourselves by someone else?

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    Risk10k Clifford Gillmore's Avatar
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    Confidence.

    For the first time in my life I feel like I am going to be able to walk around with my shirt off, and not think about stupid things like if I have gyno or anything similar. Just in time for the Adults Only night in my states biggest amusement park!

    So I'm curious - the mentallity of the body builder. I see the odd big guy, who simply works his upper body, walking around with his chin high and his ego soaring. Is this common place? Or simply a differan't breed of people?

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    Every guy, deep down, believes he's exactly 10 crunches and a set of 20 reps with DBs away from perfect stud-dom. They've found their inner-Tarzan. Find yours and you'll wear a speedo even if you weigh 350 lb, 45% BF.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    Find yours and you'll wear a speedo even if you weigh 350 lb, 45% BF.

    Hey, ShockBoxer

    Were you walking around in Speedoís back in the day?....lol


    For me confidence came when I faked it and I saw success in what I was doing. After a while I started to believe the hype myself. This doesnít mean I donít get insecure now and then, but I always have the successful experiences to fall back on.
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    Nothing worse than confident people that shouldn't be.

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    I'd like to be more confident but I'm still a "before".

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    Quote Originally Posted by xian
    Nothing worse than confident people that shouldn't be.
    I'd argue that people with no confidence at all are worse. At least the over-confident will try and believe they can do it so sometimes succeed. The truly unconfident fail before they begin.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    I'd argue that people with no confidence at all are worse. At least the over-confident will try and believe they can do it so sometimes succeed. The truly unconfident fail before they begin.
    I see your point, but I think it depends on the situation. I don't want my overconfident neurosurgeon to feel like he "can do it" when he can't; I'd rather have the unconfident guy who says that he can't operate on my brain.

    I recognize the weakness of my point, because generally the people who become surgeons are probably fairly confident. However, I think its essence is intact.

    Generally I would agree that being unconfident is worse than being overconfident. Lord knows, I suffer fromm the latter sin often enough.
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    I doubt there's such a thing as a truly unconfident *successfuk* doctor, lawyer, CEO, fighter, or pro athlete.

    I'm guessing there's more than a few that are arrogant *******s who think they are among the best and then have the gall to back it up by earning it.

    Yes, an extreme in either direction in the hands of some professionals is a dangerous thing (both a totally unconfident pilot and a supremely overconfident one will get you killed landing a plane). Finding the right level is probably what seperates the great from the good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    Finding the right level is probably what seperates the great from the good.

    The difference between a confident person and an arrogant person is that a confident person doesn't feel the need to go bragging about how great they are. Being humble is a silent confidence in oneís self.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    I'd argue that people with no confidence at all are worse. At least the over-confident will try and believe they can do it so sometimes succeed. The truly unconfident fail before they begin.
    People with no confidence never go out of their way to annoy me. I don't have to look at the nipples of 50 year old guys who lack confidence at the gym. I don't have to glance upon a senior citizen in a speedo at the beach who doesn't think much of himself. I don't have to gawk at an obese woman in a bikini at the pool unless she's over-confident.

    The guy who thinks little of himself will keep to himself, not step on my toes, and doesn't try to nab women at the bar. So yeah, that's way better.

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    That's true. I was thinking about what was worse for them, though, not everyone around them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    I'd argue that people with no confidence at all are worse. At least the over-confident will try and believe they can do it so sometimes succeed. The truly unconfident fail before they begin.
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    I wish the weather in ohio permitted more opportunities to take your shirt off. sigh
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    I dont really think anybody will care if youre shirt is off or not.

    But you should enjoy being muscular, show it..show them the whole thing, and dont hide away when you pose.
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    Chicks dig confidence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xian
    People with no confidence never go out of their way to annoy me. I don't have to look at the nipples of 50 year old guys who lack confidence at the gym. I don't have to glance upon a senior citizen in a speedo at the beach who doesn't think much of himself. I don't have to gawk at an obese woman in a bikini at the pool unless she's over-confident.

    The guy who thinks little of himself will keep to himself, not step on my toes, and doesn't try to nab women at the bar. So yeah, that's way better.
    This is true.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    I'd argue that people with no confidence at all are worse. At least the over-confident will try and believe they can do it so sometimes succeed. The truly unconfident fail before they begin.
    These are wise words and I agree 100%.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rock
    I dont really think anybody will care if youre shirt is off or not.

    But you should enjoy being muscular, show it..show them the whole thing, and dont hide away when you pose.
    Yes! A man who knows his pumping iron.

    "Remember one thing, when you pose...a lot of little guys have one habit.
    And they hide away when they pose. When they do an arm pose, they do like this. The big guy will come right out with his arm. Never do that, never hide away. Like right now, you did like this. You know, show them. Show them the whole thing. Make the move, open up the whole body."

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    Quote Originally Posted by fatrb38
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    Sig away (though the sentence structure could use a little work).
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    hahaha make the move! thats awesome Chris that you remember every word!
    A big thanks to all my friends in the USA, I am deeply grateful for your hospitality and kindness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShockBoxer
    Every guy, deep down, believes he's exactly 10 crunches and a set of 20 reps with DBs away from perfect stud-dom. They've found their inner-Tarzan. Find yours and you'll wear a speedo even if you weigh 350 lb, 45% BF.
    Shockboxer, that is eminenetly quotable.
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