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The Five Biggest Contradictions in Fitness

It’s no secret that when people contradict themselves, it has the effect of making the flaws in their actions or statements seem glaringly obvious. But what about when WE ourselves get caught contradicting ourselves by someone else?

By: Nick Tumminello Added: January 6th, 2014
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    help w/ female advice.

    lets say there is this girl who I met.
    She and me have a spare/ study period second period. So, one day she started talking to me. And after that we always sit together in the library, since there is no where else to 'study' in my school. We have different classes, so I hardly see her. However, I enjoy having this study period thing with her, we usually end up talking. Unfortunately, she is very active with school and always does something after this period. And I dont see her after school, during which time I have to go pick up my lil sister and bring her home.
    I'm going nuts about this female. I like a lot of things about her, but I never told her that. (Such as... her inthusiasm *sp?* or dedication.) Past week she was asked to do something else during the study hall period, and thus I hardly see her. On friday, I decided to go and talk to her before she had to go for a meeting.

    I was woundering, should I go up to her and tell her straigh up that I am crazy about her and I like her; and if she would invite me more to her meetings or whatever she is doing, I would like to get to know her better and be around her more? (Would this look too intense of an approach?)

    Me and her both 18 btw. I'm just soo crazy about her, yet I know so little about her.
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    No guts no glory.

    Next time you see her, ask her for coffee or something.

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    get her number and ask her out for dinner and something fun that you might think she'll like. don't go to a movie on the first date, you won't have time to talk to her during a movie, save movies for making out later down the road. don't tell her anything crazy like you're in love with her or something. I'd hold out on the going to her meetings kinda thing because that might be intrusive since you barely know her

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    Give it up. She hates you, and will only laugh at you if you ask her out.
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    I'm in the same situation you are in. I would ask the girl I like, but we work together. Other than that, dude, just go up and casually say "I'm not busy this "whatever weekday you are available" and I was wondering if you would like to go to "some restaurant" and then go bowling afterwards?"
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    Like they said up above brother, if you dont have the courage to ask then theres an astounding chance nothing will ever happen between you and her. Also that if you end up waiting too long, you might see her in the arms of another guy and then you'd kick yourself everyday and think that could have been me.

    No pain no gain, no guts no glory ... pick your posion. Bottom line is you need to show her some signs you are interested in her, be subtle at first... and if she keeps missing the hints (possible on purpose) then become more and more aggressive and then just get to the point. But dont go to extreme either... you dont wana seem like you've got some werid obsession with her or get the kinda "creepy guy" vibe going out.


    Or you can just never talk to her and keep doin the 5 finger shuffle.

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    tell her your crazy about her, and you'll most likely scare her off. Ask her to lunch or dinner.
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    Yes, do not go up and profess your love for her. Just ask her out on a date.

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    I wouldn't even be so forward. Just say something to the effect of "So, it's really nice talking to you every day, do you think we could go do something after school sometime? I'd like to get to know you better."

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    Dude you're in high school, right? Find out about some parties coming up next weekend and after talking to her for a while, ask her what she's doing that weekend. Regardless of what she says, say that you know of a few parties (remember to do your research and find this **** out or just have people over at a friend's house if they're okay with it) and tell her to give you her number and you'll give her a call.
    No offense but I think the "confessing your love" idea isn't the best way to go. It'll probs scare her off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fatrb38
    No offense but I think the "confessing your love" idea isn't the best way to go. It'll probs scare her off.
    more likely than not, yes it will scare her off...so thats a big negatory on this approach...

    Quote Originally Posted by fatrb38
    Dude you're in high school, right? Find out about some parties coming up next weekend and after talking to her for a while, ask her what she's doing that weekend. Regardless of what she says, say that you know of a few parties (remember to do your research and find this **** out or just have people over at a friend's house if they're okay with it) and tell her to give you her number and you'll give her a call.
    but this is a great idea...fatrb=teh man...
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    I swear to god Fatrb38 has to have gotten laid like 6000 times.

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    lick your thumb and press it to her shirt ... then tell her you would like to help her out of her wet clothes.
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    ask if she wants to join you to get coffee during your spare.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fatrb38
    No offense but I think the "confessing your love" idea isn't the best way to go. It'll probs scare her off.

    Haha. Yea, it definitely will. I had to learn that the hard way. But don't be gay about it, just be to the point with her. Tell her you want to meet her somewhere for a drink or whatever. Don't ask her. Tell her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DarrenEff
    Next time you see her, ask her for coffee or something.
    [nitpick]...ask her out for a coffee or something.[/nitpick] She isn't your maid!
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    Quote Originally Posted by cphafner
    tell her your crazy about her, and you'll most likely scare her off. Ask her to lunch or dinner.
    ++ Be casual about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WBBIRL
    I swear to god Fatrb38 has to have gotten laid like 6000 times.
    As flattering as this is, just so there aren't any false pretenses, no I haven't gotten laid an insane amount of times like some of you might think.
    I'm not huge on excuses but the fact of the matter is that only within the last ~6 months have I really become knowledgable regarding the "man-woman dynamic" (as I like to call it). I'm 19 and sophomore in college but I was a bit of a goofy kid in high school. Not that I wasn't popular and didn't have friends but I was a bit of the class-clown type of guy.
    Anyway about 6 months ago I decided to read a couple books on the subject of the "man-woman dynamic" and I found it very enlightening and easy to put into practice. One of the books (which I recommended a few months ago on here) I can actually say entirely proved my quality of life, especially with regards to my self-esteem. Up until 6 months ago I also had living conditions, among other things (no fake ID, more damaging than you would think), that really prevented me from being able to get exposure to new people (read "new girls") and have privacy back at my apartment. Within the last few months I got those things fixed...
    And within the last few months yes I've hooked up with more high-quality girls than I would have previously thought possible. No I haven't gotten laid like 6,000 times but I'm really starting to get a good rate going. Check back in a few years and I'm sure I'll have a pretty decent/ridiculous number.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WBBIRL
    Or you can just never talk to her and keep doin the 5 finger shuffle.
    AAahhhh the classic 5 finger shuffle. I always use that one. (i hope were talking about the same thing... the wave?)

    Be funny man, make her feel comfortable. Talk to her about the weekend.. When you get to the right time, ask her to out for a drink.. wait your not old enough, damn. Do what the rest of them said above then. Show her something about you that she wont be able to get out of her mind.. Then maybe she will be the one coming after you...?
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    Whatever you do, do not go overboard in showering her with compliments, telling her your crazy about her or in love with her..stuff like that should only be said if it gets pretty serious and even then use it in moderation... like a secret weapon. You see if they get to hear this all the time it wont mean that much to them anymore, so if ye **** up really badly and come out with an "i love you so much honey" and give her the look shell forgive you!

    So just ask her out for something small.. like going to see a movie or whatever so you can both talk and get to know each other a bit better etc. If that goes to plan you can invite her over to your house sometime etc (DONT go diving for the hidden treasure the first chance you get though..its best to try this when you notice shes comfortable enough being aruond you etc)

    Good luck bro!

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    Just be yourself. Invite her to something that you like to do outside of school...Get her to hang out with you at your house... Insert Teh Pen43 in to mouth. The end.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DarrenEff
    No guts no glory.
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    I shoved my current GF up against my car and kissed her the second time I ever saw her... Asked her out a few days later, she was already mine. It's been six and a half months!
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    I demand an update!
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    Quote Originally Posted by fatrb38
    I demand an update!
    lol ME TOO! we need to know these things man
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