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    Just needing a little encouragement

    Been weightlifting since July, and back in college I lifted for about a year.

    Now I know I'm not eating enough - I'm slowly hedging up my calories. So I know what's wrong - it's my calories. I need to be patient.

    I've been getting great gains with exercises I'm new at - the kind of gains where you're not yet skilled enough to take full advantage of existing muscle.

    But the 'glamor' lifts (naturally the ones I've been doign the longest, and are therefore skilled at) -- Those have been flatlined for a month.

    Tonight I was t.i.r.e.d and I was only barely able to curl what I've been curling since Oct (while easily repping out squats at a new weight).

    I need to eat more. I need to maintain my program, steady as she goes.

    But it's still discouraging to Barely be able to curl what you've been curling for a month.

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    What Separates Us From Them



    "So, what are you doing for a living these days?" Bob asked me. We're sitting on the couch at one of those tedious holiday get-togethers, you know, the ones where you're supposed to be nice to family members you never see except during major holidays and funerals. I think Bob is my wife's brother-in-law's second cousin or something.

    "I'm the assistant editor and a writer for Testosterone magazine," I say. Bob looks at me with a blank expression on his face, as if I'd just told him I sell handmade testicle warmers beside the freeway and was looking to open franchises across the nation.

    "It's a bodybuilding magazine," I say.

    Blank expression. Deer caught in the headlights. Ronnie Coleman doing trigonometry.

    "Oh," Bob finally says, "I heard you were, like, one of those bodybuilder guys or something. So, what's that like, you know, working out every day and stuff? I just don't have time to lift weights all day, but I have been meaning to get rid of this beer belly." He takes another sip of beer. "What do you suggest?" Sip.

    At first I was a little offended. I wanted to grab him up and say, "You can't tell I'm a bodybuilder?! Look at my ass! Now, if that's not a nice round squat-built piece of sirloin, I don't know what is! You think that comes naturally? I can crack walnuts with this puppy! Wanna see? Huh, punk? Do ya? Do ya?"

    Then I realize this just might cause a scene and could cost me several Christmas presents. I was planning on returning any presents I got and using the money to buy a power rack, so I didn't want to jeopardize this gift getting opportunity. I also realized that old Bob probably had a certain preconceived image of a bodybuilder and I just didn't fit that image. I'm not gorilla huge; I weigh about 205 at 5'11" right now. (When I first started lifting I was a pudgy 159, so that's not too shabby.) Also, I wasn't wearing clown pants, a fluorescent string tank top, a hanky on my head and one of those little fanny packs. And isn't that what real bodybuilders are supposed to wear?

    Bob continued to sit there drinking his Natural Light, smoking a cigarette and waiting for an answer, oblivious to the fact that he'd come this close to seeing some serious walnut- crunching ass power. I tried to figure out how I could explain to the average guy what the typical T-Man does and why he does it. How could I get him to understand what it is we do, how we feel, how we live? So I took a deep breath and told him something like this:

    "Well, Bob, I guess you could use the term bodybuilder if you really need a label for what it is we do. Most of us actually don't stand on stage and compete, though. We lift weights and manipulate our diets so that we'll look good naked. Sure, it's healthy too, and we'll probably live a longer and more productive life than the average guy, but mostly it's about the naked thing. Truthfully, it goes beyond even that.

    "Let's be honest here. We do it because of people like you, Bob. We look at you sitting there with your gut hanging over your belt and we watch you grunt and groan just getting out of a chair. Guys like you are our inspiration, Bob. You're better than Anthony Robbins, Bill Phillips, Deepak Chopra, and Zig ****ing Ziglar all wrapped up into one. We love it when guys like you talk about not having time to exercise. Every time we see you munching on a bag of potato chips, you inspire us. You're my shot in the arm, Bob, my living and breathing wake-up call, my own personal success coach.

    "You want to know what it is we do? We overcome. We're too busy to train, too, but we overcome. We're too busy to prepare healthy meals and eat them five or six times a day, but we overcome. We can't always afford supplements, our genetics aren't perfect, and we don't always feel like going to the gym. Some of us used to be just like you, Bob, but guess what? We've overcome.

    "We like to watch 'normal' people like you tell us about how they can't get in shape. We smile and nod sympathetically like we feel your pain, but actually, we're thinking that you're a pathetic piece of **** that needs to grow a spine and join a gym. You smile sheepishly and say that you just can't stay motivated and just can't stand that feeling of being sore. (For some reason you think that admitting your weaknesses somehow justifies them.) We listen to you ***** and moan. We watch you look for the easy way out. Because of people like you, Bob, we never miss a workout.

    "You ask us for advice about diet and training and usually we politely offer some guidance, but deep inside we know you won't take our advice. You know that too. We smile and say, 'Hope that helps. Good luck,' but actually we're thinking, 'Boy, it would suck to be you.' We know that 99% of people won't listen to us. Once they hear that it takes hard work, sacrifice and discipline, they stop listening and tune us out.

    "We know they wanted us to say that building a great body is easy, but it just isn't. This did not take five minutes a day on a TorsoTrack. We did not get this way in 12 short weeks using a Bowflex and the Suzanne Somers' 'Get Skinny' diet. A good body does not cost five easy payments of $39.95.

    "We like it that while you're eating a candy bar and drinking Mountain Dew, we're sucking down a protein shake. You see, that makes it taste even better to us. While you're asleep we're either getting up early or staying up late, hitting the iron, pushing ourselves, learning, succeeding and failing and rising above the norm with every rep. Can you feel that, Bob? Can you relate? No? Good. This wouldn't be half as fun if you could.

    "We do it because we absolutely and totally get off on it. We do it because people like you, Bob, either can't or won't. We do it because what we do in the gym transfers over into the rest of our lives and changes us, physically, mentally, maybe even spiritually. We do it because it beats watching fishing and golf on TV. By the way, do you know what it's like to turn the head of a beautiful woman because of the way you're built? It feels good, Bob. Damned good.

    "When we're in the gym, we're in this indescribable euphoria zone. It's a feeling of being on, of being completely alive and aware. If you haven't been there, then it's like trying to describe color to a person who's been blind since birth. Within this haze of pleasure and pain, there's knowledge and power, self-discipline and self-reliance. If you do it long enough, Bob, there's even enlightenment. Sometimes, the answers to questions you didn't even know you had are sitting there on those rubber mats, wrapped up in a neat package of iron plates and bars.

    "Want to lose that beer belly, Bob? I have a nutty idea. Put down the ****ing beer. I'll tell you what, Bob. Christmas morning I'm getting up real early and hitting the iron. I want to watch my daughter open her presents and spend the whole day with her, so this is the only time I have to train. The gym will be closed, so I'm going out in my garage to workout. You be at my house at six in the morning, okay? I'll be glad to help you get started on a weight training program. It'll be colder than Hillary Clinton's coochie in there, so dress warm.

    "But let me tell you something, Bob. If you don't show up, don't bother asking me again. And don't you ever sit there and let me hear you ***** about your beer belly again. This is your chance, your big opportunity to break out of that rut. If you don't show up, Bob, you've learned a very important lesson about yourself, haven't you? You won't like that lesson.

    "You won't like that feeling in the pit of your stomach either or that taste in your mouth. It will taste worse than defeat, Bob. Defeat tastes pretty goddamned nasty, but what you'll be experiencing will be much worse. It will be the knowledge that you're weak, mentally and physically. What's worse is that you'll have accepted that feeling. The feeling will always be with you. In the happiest moments of your life, it'll be there, lying under the surface like a malignant tumor. Ignore it at your own peril, Bob.

    "Don't look at me like that either. This just may be the best Christmas present you'll get this year. Next Christmas, Bob, when I see you again, I'm going to be a little bigger, a little stronger, and a little leaner. What will you be? Will you still be making excuses? This is a gift, Bob, from me to you. I'm giving you the chance to look fate in those pretty eyes of hers and say, 'Step off, *****. This is my party and you're not invited.' What do you say, Bob? Monday, Christmas morning, 6am, my house. The ball's in your court."

    Okay, so maybe that's not the exact words I used with Bob, but you get the picture. Will Bob show up Monday? I don't know, but I kind of doubt it. In fact, Bob will probably take me off his Christmas card list. He probably thinks I've got "too much Testosterone," like that's a bad thing. I think Bob is just stuck in a rut, and as the saying goes, the only difference between a rut and a grave is depth.

    The way out of the rut is to make major changes in your life, most of which won't be too pleasant in the beginning. The opportunity to make those changes seldom comes as bluntly as I put it to Bob. Most of the time, that opportunity knocks very softly. What I did was basically give Bob a verbal slap in the face. You can react two ways to a slap. You can get angry at the person doing the slapping, or you can realize that he was just trying to get you to wake up and focus on what you really want and, more importantly, what it'll take to get it.

    If you're a regular T-mag reader, I doubt you need to be called out like Bob. But maybe you've caught yourself slacking a little here lately. Maybe you've missed a few workouts or maybe you started a little too early on the usual holiday feasting, like, say, back in September. Just remember that the time to start working on that summer body is now. The time to get rid of those bad habits that hold you back in the gym is now. You want to look totally different by next Christmas? Start now. This isn't because of the holidays or any corny New Year's resolutions either. The best time is always now.

    Christmas day I want you to enjoy being with your family and friends. I want you to open presents, sip a little eggnog and have a good meal. But if your regularily scheduled workout happens to fall on December 25th, what will you be doing at six o'clock that morning?

    That's what separates us from guys like Bob.

    Credit for this article to T-Mag.com. I like this article for a little inspiration. Good luck mate, keep going.
    Last edited by pepsihatman; 11-28-2006 at 08:41 PM.

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    That did it!

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    I love reading that.

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    Questor, you have to keep in mind that your biceps are tiny muscles when compared to hammies, quads, and glutes. You're always going to be able to progress with weight in your bigger muscles faster than your little ones.

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    Well yes, however I'm also experiencing the issue with the bench press.

    It's the 'glamour' exercises which are stagnant. The ones everyone does and falsely measures themselves by.

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    Are you lifting heavy on the bench press? Are you varying it up? Changing exercises and rep schemes? Are you working with bands or boards? There are various ways to increase the bench press and you have to take advantage of every single one if you want to really improve. Also try to learn proper powerlifting techniques. Lastly, most of it depends on genetics. I have strong triceps and a strong chest, but my lats have always been weak. Sometimes we just struggle with certain parts of our body.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LouPac View Post
    I have strong triceps and a strong chest, but my lats have always been weak. Sometimes we just struggle with certain parts of our body.
    Methinks you're just being humble. In my dictionary, anyone who deadlifts 450 pounds by definition has strong lats. Whatever weakness you may have once had in that area, it appears you have done much to overcome it.



    Go Noles!

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    I have been varying my routines frequently - perhaps too frequently. Each week it seemed like I learned something new about what kind fo workout was good for me. At first I was over training, then under training, then training some muscle groups too in frequently, and others too frequently. I've started to settle, I think... I found myself heading towards BGB, and in fact now I've picked BGB - and I think that's the best workout for me for the foreseeable future.

    I use free weights, alternating weeks between dumbbells and barbells where possible. In the case of bench, I typically do flat barbell and incline barbell one week, then flat dumbbell and incline dumbbell the next.

    Honestly though, check out my caloric intakes:

    2414
    2309
    2316
    2492
    2258
    2490
    2510
    2508
    2288
    2631
    2631

    I'm quite sure I need to eat more, and I tend to think this is my principle problem. By the end of the week, I may be eating 2700. Perhaps by 2007 I'll have eased up to 3000.

    And I agree with beatlesfreak!
    Last edited by Questor; 11-28-2006 at 09:38 PM.

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    ^^^

    By yourself a can of Blue Diamond almonds. Keep it in your backpack, desk, or some other handy place. Munch mindlessly throughout the day.

    Fiber, protein, and lots of good fat calories.

    And they taste great too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beatlesfreak View Post
    Methinks you're just being humble. In my dictionary, anyone who deadlifts 450 pounds by definition has strong lats. Whatever weakness you may have once had in that area, it appears you have done much to overcome it.



    Go Noles!
    Meh, the deadlift is a combination of so many muscles. My lats suck when it comes to doing BB rows.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Questor View Post
    That did it!
    *big grin* I love that article

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    Quote Originally Posted by Questor View Post
    I have been varying my routines frequently - perhaps too frequently. Each week it seemed like I learned something new about what kind fo workout was good for me. At first I was over training, then under training, then training some muscle groups too in frequently, and others too frequently. I've started to settle, I think... I found myself heading towards BGB, and in fact now I've picked BGB - and I think that's the best workout for me for the foreseeable future.

    I use free weights, alternating weeks between dumbbells and barbells where possible. In the case of bench, I typically do flat barbell and incline barbell one week, then flat dumbbell and incline dumbbell the next.

    Honestly though, check out my caloric intakes:

    2414
    2309
    2316
    2492
    2258
    2490
    2510
    2508
    2288
    2631
    2631

    I'm quite sure I need to eat more, and I tend to think this is my principle problem. By the end of the week, I may be eating 2700. Perhaps by 2007 I'll have eased up to 3000.

    And I agree with beatlesfreak!
    BGB is an awesome split - Good choice!
    LouPac brought up an important issue: periodization. Check out these links: http://www.stadion.com/column_stretch42.html , http://faculty.fullerton.edu/leebrow...iodization.pdf , or you could do a little research yourself. But, you may find this will help with your temporary plateau.

    Anyway, cheer up babe! You've just reached a plateau, but keep eating, do a little reading and you're gonna push through it in no time!
    "Somewhere in the world, someone is training when you are not. When you compete against them, they will win." - Anonymous

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