Why is it that I cannot seem to surround myself with people who understand the lifestyle of bodybuilding? Why do most of the people I deal with everyday have to be so ignorant about this topic, and assume things that are untrue.
Some examples that I'm sure some of you can relate to:
What you do: What they assume
-You use the word "bodybuilding" to describe what you do: You are automatically a dumb meathead.
-You admire pictures of bodybuilders, and get a sense of inspiration by looking at them: Your either bi-sexual, gay, or are hiding something.
-When you tell them for ex, Frank Zane's physique is amazing: You get a strange look and are asked, "Why would you ever want to look like that, it's disgusting"
-You fill out your shirt and your arms stretch the sleeves: Your most likely on steroids and everyone should know about it. Steroids are for people with small penises.
-You eat properly and try to avoid drinking every single weekend: You get some sort of sarcastic remark that has to do with muscles.
-Someone see's progress pictures that you've taken and which you happen to be proud of: You're vain, or full of yourself.
-Your enjoying one of your protein shakes, or home made bulking shakes: "Must be his steroids in the cup or something"
-Someone finally seems interested in your lifestyle, and the first thing they ask is, "How much can you bench??"
-You work out 5 days a week: Your automatically self concience about yourself and need to work out to feel good"
It seems as if everyone has a comment to make. I only wish I could find people in my area with the same interests and understanding of this lifestyle. It really doesn't help motivate me to have these types of people around on a regular basis. And it's not only my friends, but the people whom I associate with at school, work and places I go to have a good time etc.
And that, is my rant lol
"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education alone will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race." - John Calvin Coolidge
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Get rid of those people in your life. You need people that will encourage you to do your best and don't care if you admire those others that are better than you. Most likely they're really jealous that they're probably a fat slob and they don't give a rat's ass about their health. Worry about yourself, don't talk to the people around you about lifting and tell them go go **** themselves if they don't like it. My family gives me **** about it all the time and then I tell them to look at one another and tell me who is in better shape than me. At work I told everyone that I take horse tranquilizers and miracle grow. That shut everyone up.
249lbs cutting to 220lbs
Half the time, I don't think people actually believe what they are saying. They are just saying it because they are intimidated by you.
I'm being serious here, too. You will see a guy who doesn't work out walking in the mall or down a sidewalk, and a big huge guy walks past, the little guy makes way for him because he is so intimidated. Then when the bigguy gets out of earshot, you will hear him make snide comments like some that you posted above (small penor, must be vain, prolly juices) or something like, I bet he's as dumb as a box of rocks. Ape is all brawn and no brains. etc. etc.
It's intimidation and envy.
You're a minority in today's society. Ask any minority if they have an easy time of things. The majority will always try and get you to conform because that's how they became a majority in the first place.
What makes it even worse is that you have to WORK to be that minority. That's completely uncomprehendable and no different than mr 500 piercings.
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The Reconstruction Project (Journal)
Age: 34, Height: 5'4, Weight: 185, BF: somewhere between 15 and 45%
Weightlifting Start Date: July 26, 2005 - Bench 95 x 6, Dead 110 x 8, Smith Squat 180 x 8
Bests: Bench 185 x 8, Dead 400 x 1, Zercher Squat 295 x 3
Stop thinking and go lift - Paul Stagg
Well one thing. If you wanna avoid the gay comments when your staring at some inspirational shots of bodybuilders in their posing trunks don't view these in public or get some friends that know what your all about. If I didn't know anything about bodybuilding and saw a dude looking at a guy in a pair of posing trunks I might think something was up too.
Unless your Ruhl, Warrens or Coleman's sizes you shouldn't really be wearing T-shirts that you 'strech the arms out on'. Sure we could all throw on Larges and walk around like we are tough ****. But wearing a size that fits you comfortably don't make your physique any less impressive. If you wanna walk around with it exposed then expect some haters man.
Finally I don't know about you. But I lift 5 times a week and I am VERY self concious about myself and the way I look.
Bodybuilding competitive or otherwise comes with its burdens. Learn to deal.
And thats good to have confidence in yourself.
I think fashion is a totally different subject here, but I understand what your saying, if you advertise yourself this way, then learn to deal with some negative comments.
I think the OP is just stating the fact that it's astonishing everywhere around him either doesn't accept the lifestyle or just plain out feels the need to put him down. I get it all the time from every direction and it's just annoying to listen to. Yes we deal with it and accept it, it's just frustrating to hear. It would also make it easier if people were more supportive and involved instead of us being minority. I just wish we had more people around us that we could possibly hang out with on weekends or what not, instead of coming on here for the support and understanding.
Gym PRs: 365/240/440=1045
People need to quit ****ing asking what they need to do, exercise wise, until they reinforce their technique - Dave Tate
The never-ending pursuit of becoming Strong(er) - My Westside journal
Yeah, I agree guys. I was viewing the "Members pictures area" and my mom walked in the room while I was looking at some pics and of course she thought I was gay because later on, she had my dad "have a talk" with me, where he said it's o.k. to "be myself" I told him what do you mean? And he said well, your mother has caught you looking at male porno?
Well then i had to explain that i was ONA FORUM and that's what people do is take pictures and post them, so they still are thinking that im "not right"
gym lifts: squat: 341lbs, deadlift: 374lbs, bench: 275lbs
My journal: http://www.wannabebigforums.com/showthread.php?t=85034
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I havent had any of these problems (probably b/c Im not that big yet), but my dad loves that I am doing it...and a lot of my friends have told me that they want to bulk up like I have, but are too lazy.
holy crap. i feel the dame way. im currently in air force tech school and no one here is in to lifting or has anything in commin with me for the matter. it sucks i need to meet some new people.
Very true post. The steriotypes and ignorance is everywhere. As far as the gay comments...when I was in line to get a coffee the other day I found myself staring at the cover of a fitness magazine because the guy had the 'ideal' build but he was wearing short shorts and I caught myself worrying what people were probably saying to themselves about me haha.
Was in line at a gas station with my buddy, picking up some water and jerkey, and my buddy points down to the magazine rack. I look and see Arnold on the cover - a picture from his former Mr. O days. I say "damn, he was so huge"
My buddy just laughs and rolls his eyes - "I was talking about Pam Anderson". There happened to be a Maxim-esque mag right to the left of the Arnold cover. I just found it amusing that I didn't even notice the racked out boombalattie......
*This is the same friend who has given me the nickname of "Meathead"....
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i see a new thread dealing with this subject every week. the majority of the population isn't into training and doesn't understand it. get over it.
BTW RBB the weight room is back up at Gold's, and its fairly decent, they set the racks back in a corner where its queiter and the more.
the only thing I have issues with is when people spout off common stereotypes of working out...the whole running makes you lose weight and all the other stuff. We all hate it but it seems the more I learn the more I'm annoyed at peoples misconceptions..many of which I held until I learned more. Knowledge is a treasure and a curse... just gotta deal.
HT: 6'3 / WT: 265lbs 16%BF
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- I like girls -
Theres a ton of people like this and its annoying, tell them to go F themselves and go back to burger king (although i love BK, still)
My friends are actually very supportive and the females actually ask me a ton of questions and are very interested. I dont tell them im a bodybuilder but a powerlifter.
2000 or bust
Yup, that's about how it works.
Don't get much flak about it either.
I must be lucky cause most the people I meet tell me they wish they could do what I did. I always get questions about how to eat and how to workout and on and on and on. At my current job they call me the resident nutritionist. Which I think is dumb cause i really don't think I know a lot but I guess compared to what they know I do.
1) If you show people the postitives of physical culture, they might just join you.
2) Most people are turned off by 'bodybuilding' because of the vanity aspect. They have a valid issue with that. 'Bodybuilding' isn't necessarily healthy, doesn't necessarily make you strong. So if you aren't competing as a bodybuilder, don't call it that, call it training.
3) Who cares if someone thinks you're gay. Most gay people are pretty cool.
4) If all else fails, remove the negative people from your life.
Squats work better than supplements.
"You know, if I thought like that, I'd never put more than one plate on the bar for anything, I'd never use bands or chains, I'd never squat to parallel or below, and I'd never let out the slightest grunt when I lift. At some point in your lifting career (assuming you're planning on getting reasonably strong and big), you're going to have to accept that most people think you are some kind of freak." -Sensei
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