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The Five Biggest Contradictions in Fitness

Itís no secret that when people contradict themselves, it has the effect of making the flaws in their actions or statements seem glaringly obvious. But what about when WE ourselves get caught contradicting ourselves by someone else?

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    Very confused

    The weirdest situation I have been in,

    If your girlfriend goes to Las Vegas, gets completely obliterated and cheats on you what would you say. She denies it like no other, her friends even said she didn't do a thing. But she was wasted and told me she screamed my name 20 minutes ago when I talked to her lastnight, I asked what she was talking about she said some guy got mad she screamed my name when they where ****ing, then she said "no it didn't really happen stop worrying" So I brushed it off, I tried calling her to say goodnight after I left a party and her phone was off so I called her friend to have her tell her goodnight, her friend didn't pick up and this morning I got a voice mail from her friend at the time I called saying " I'm just calling you back" and I can hear my girl in the background moaning and her friend went OMG and said some dudes name and some dude said something , then her friend hung up.

    Maybe I am being paranoid or not wanting to accept the obvious, she comes home tonight and I guess I will talk to her about it, body language says everything. What do you think of the situation..
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    I think you allready know whats going on, dont you?
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    I agree with McVein

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    On one hand they could just be **** testing you, but either way I wouldn't be too happy if I were you.

    When she comes around start being a bit withdrawn but yeah definitely read her body language. If decide that you DO think she's cheated on you then either give her the boot or keep being aloof and start looking around for other girls.

    BTW how long you two been dating?

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    Quote Originally Posted by d'Anconia View Post

    This is a juicey one.
    haha
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    I agree with McVein

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    I would dump her immediately. I have no time for liars, and she's obviously not telling you what happened.

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    sounds like she's trying to pull a prank on you with her friends. I would def. be pissed off but try and talk to her about it..
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    I'd say that whatever you do, make sure you don't appear too emotional over it.
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    It does kind of sound like she is testing you/pull a prank...I'd play it by ear...she how he acts when she gets home...like you said, watch her body language..

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    Dump her ass. It's obvious you don't trust her after this, and pulling jokes like that is stupid and childish. Breaking trust is grounds for immediate relationship termination.

    If she tries to say it was a joke, tell her to prove it. Keep in mind that her friends backing up her story isn't proof. She'll probably be very willing to try new things to get back into your good graces. You could very well turn it into weeks worth of nasty sex, then kick her ass out when you've found a replacement.

    She wants to play games, you play better ones.
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    pulling a prank?? testing you??? hell no!!! what would that test if you are willing to let her cheat on you??? and what kind of prank is that oh hahah u thought i was cheating on you. i dont think so

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    It seems there are two possibilities. A) She really is cheating, in which case I suggest you refer to:

    Quote Originally Posted by VikingWarlord View Post
    She'll probably be very willing to try new things to get back into your good graces. You could very well turn it into weeks worth of nasty sex, then kick her ass out when you've found a replacement..
    or B) It's just a joke. I would be really pissed if my girlfriend pulled a prank like this. That really should be considered some form of sick and twisted torture. Anyway, you couldn't just let this slide. I would say find some chick that she hates and film yourself having nasty sex with her. In the video, make sure before you start having said nasty sex you look into the camera and say, "Hey, I'm dumping you." Proceed with the sex, then at the end say "Just kidding! Jokes on you, I love you!"

    In either case, there's a point in your life where you'll come to realize that 99% of all girls are lying, conniving, manipulative, deceitful, heartless, cold-blooded, two-faced, she-devils and it's encoded in their DNA to put as many guys as possible through as much torment as they can. I'm not making this up, it was on the discovery channel. They did studies.
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    Listen up bro ... this is the way it is ... there is no other answer ...

    She doesnt respect you or really care for you . Who would play that game on someone they cared about ? NO ONE

    She is a trick a$$ ho ... nothing more .

    Lastly ... how much do you respect yourself ? What is your self worth ? If the answer is "not much" then go back with her .

    If you dont mind other dudes test driving your woman every other week then stay with her . Dont read into this anymore , she is going to try to convince you of every IMPOSSIBLE scenario there is . Then when she has you a little on the ropes she'll say ..." I cant believe you dont trust me " . Now you are on the defensive ...tell her to sell that ***** elsewhere ... you aint buying .
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phenom View Post
    In either case, there's a point in your life where you'll come to realize that 99% of all girls are lying, conniving, manipulative, deceitful, heartless, cold-blooded, two-faced, she-devils and it's encoded in their DNA to put as many guys as possible through as much torment as they can. I'm not making this up, it was on the discovery channel. They did studies.
    I think I saw that episode.

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    She got the crap boned out of her by another guy.

    You want suggestions?

    Slash her tires and never talk to her again.
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    You're Ex-Gf has a terrible sense of humour if this is a joke...She's your Ex-Gf right?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phenom View Post
    It's just a joke. I would be really pissed if my girlfriend pulled a prank like this. That really should be considered some form of sick and twisted torture. Anyway, you couldn't just let this slide. I would say find some chick that she hates and film yourself having nasty sex with her. In the video, make sure before you start having said nasty sex you look into the camera and say, "Hey, I'm dumping you." Proceed with the sex, then at the end say "Just kidding! Jokes on you, I love you!"
    Even if it is a joke, there's no way to be convinced. She obviously has no respect for the guy. The hell with her.

    In either case, there's a point in your life where you'll come to realize that 99% of all girls are lying, conniving, manipulative, deceitful, heartless, cold-blooded, two-faced, she-devils and it's encoded in their DNA to put as many guys as possible through as much torment as they can. I'm not making this up, it was on the discovery channel. They did studies.
    Dude, it's not women. It's people. Most males don't have any respect for anyone either. Everyone sucks. Just so happens that the more attractive someone is, the less he/she has to rely on personality and respectfulness to get by.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brawl View Post
    Listen up bro ... this is the way it is ... there is no other answer ...

    She doesnt respect you or really care for you . Who would play that game on someone they cared about ? NO ONE

    She is a trick a$$ ho ... nothing more .

    Lastly ... how much do you respect yourself ? What is your self worth ? If the answer is "not much" then go back with her .

    If you dont mind other dudes test driving your woman every other week then stay with her . Dont read into this anymore , she is going to try to convince you of every IMPOSSIBLE scenario there is . Then when she has you a little on the ropes she'll say ..." I cant believe you dont trust me " . Now you are on the defensive ...tell her to sell that ***** elsewhere ... you aint buying .

    I think you and I share the same brain sometimes.

    If it is true or she is playing a joke, either way its not cool. Time to move on.
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    Listen, I'm not kidding... whatever you do, do NOT let it appear that you are entirely emotional over this. The less emotion you show over this issue, the more she'll be like "what the ****" and you have officially one-upped her. If you break down and cry or something she's going to think that you're pathetic. She is the one who is playing childish games so treat her like a child.
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    shes going to be here in like 5 or 6 hours... I honestly have no clue what I'm going to say. I don't really feel hurt anymore at this point; just pissed off. She keeps text messaging me saying to not break up with her and that she didn't do anything blah blah blah.

    I'm starting to think maybe I can have fun with this situation.
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    Do the only reasonable thing. Bang another girl so that way if you found out she really did cheat on you, you have that to look back on and smile and still make her look like the bad person.
    Like the others said, she probably is cheating on you. I would hope she isn't that immature to play a stupid ass prank like that.

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    Dude how was the relationship before this crap?
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    I don't have the guts to do it but the best thing to do would be to do it one more time and right after I'm done. " I'm done, so are we" hahaha.. man it sucks though I really like her. Arghh. I guess in the military being gone just makes it impossible to not get cheated on. Ugh.


    It was good, she buys me stuff, goes out of her way to make me happy, told her parents to come down here to meet me in like 2 weeks. It was perfect. It would be sad I suppose if I somehow just pissed her off and made her say that by prying about what she was doing last night. And what I heard in the background wasn't what I thought it was. But I am 90% sure.
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    I'm with vikingwarlord. Do nasty things to her and keeping getting dirtier and dirtier until she finally refuses. When she finally does refuse, say you knew about the cheating and you just wanted to treat her like the whore she is before you broke up.
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