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The Five Biggest Contradictions in Fitness

Itís no secret that when people contradict themselves, it has the effect of making the flaws in their actions or statements seem glaringly obvious. But what about when WE ourselves get caught contradicting ourselves by someone else?

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    Not quite the same as the others...

    Ok, this is a girl problem thread, but it's a little different than normal.

    I have a rule about not dating/messing around with coworkers. It usually ends up in a bad situation.

    There's one coworker that I've been friendly with for a while, conversing, joking, making fun of people, etc. She's cool, but she's been getting more flirty lately. I've been considering asking her to come out to the show my guitard puts on every month because it's always a good time and the more people, the merrier. She's pretty cute, but a bit of a pillhead, and that turns me right the hell off of a potential future immediately. Have no interest in anything beyond being friends with her.

    Is it a good idea to invite her to come out to the show or would this send the wrong message? I don't want to come out and say that I have no interest in her because I might be reading the situation wrong and then we'd both be embarassed. It's a rare situation for me to be in. If I wanted her, I could get her, if I had no interest at all, I'd just ignore her or **** and chuck it, but I'm not really interested in either of those options.
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    ...but I'm not really interested in either of those options.
    There's your answer. Just don't bother then. There's plenty of other women out there.
    Last edited by sCaRz*Of*PaiN; 07-17-2007 at 07:08 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sCaRz*Of*PaiN View Post
    There's your answer. Just don't bother then. There's plenty of other women out there.
    Well, like I said, I want to be friends and social outside of work without giving the wrong idea, but you're right. If I can't figure out how to do that, I'll just let it go.
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    Just bang her. Friends with benefits rock.
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    Don't worry about sending the wrong message - when you're with her she'll be able to tell your intents. Like you said, the more the merrier, I'd invite her if she seems like a cool chick.
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    you know you can be "just friends" with her right? Nothing sexual or intimate, just put her in the friends zone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DeHartD View Post
    you know you can be "just friends" with her right? Nothing sexual or intimate, just put her in the friends zone.
    That's what the ultimate goal is. I'm more concerned with giving the wrong message about my intentions.

    After actually writing it out and seeing it, I think I'll just go ahead and make the invite.
    Last edited by VikingWarlord; 07-17-2007 at 07:29 PM.
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    Glad you came to a conclusion. It helps sometimes to talk about it and just get it all out there so you can analyze everything.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sCaRz*Of*PaiN View Post
    Glad you came to a conclusion. It helps sometimes to talk about it and just get it all out there so you can analyze everything.
    Yeah, I find that sometimes the simple act of writing things out forces you to put it in an organizational form that's just impossible inside your own head.
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    wait, you're asking how to get in to the "just friends" zone?

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    Okay, so you know when you hold your mouse over a thread and you see the first sentence or so? Well, that's how I judge which threads to open. I saw this thread and the "Ok, this is a girl problem thread, but it's a little different than normal." which caught my attention because I was hoping the next line would be something like "This girl is a vampire" or "This 'girl' is old enough to be my grandma". Thanks for getting my hopes up.

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    I'll try to get myself into a predicament where i can write in the thread title "Girl problem..Topher, you're gonna wanna see this"


    And Viking, like you said, writing it out helps you organize everything and while you're writing you begin to analyze it in a different manner than you would in your head. At least you got it figured out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RedSpikeyThing View Post
    wait, you're asking how to get in to the "just friends" zone?
    No, I'm figuring out if whether making an invitation to do something would make her think I'm trying to take it outside the friend zone. I also decided I don't care, I'll do it anyway because the show's always a ****load of fun regardless.
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    "You wanna come to a show with me? BTW: I'm gay."


    Problem solved.

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    You seem like you'd be a nice guy in person, just don't sweat the petty ****. Hell, I've got friend girls I can rock up to their houses at 3am and they do not expect me to drop my pants at any given moment.

    Eugh, I should do it though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by phreak View Post
    "You wanna come to a show with me? BTW: I'm gay."


    Problem solved.
    I pulled the "I'm gay" move before on some fat chick at a club. It worked beautifully until she started telling the girl I was trying to hit up that I was gay, even though I eventually convinced her otherwise.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Risk10k View Post
    You seem like you'd be a nice guy in person, just don't sweat the petty ****. Hell, I've got friend girls I can rock up to their houses at 3am and they do not expect me to drop my pants at any given moment.

    Eugh, I should do it though.
    I'll just do it since I invite people to this thing all the time, including some of our other coworkers. After thinking and seeing it typed out, there's no reason to treat it like anything else. Didn't want her to take it the wrong way, but realized I don't really care how it's interpreted. I know what my intentions are.
    If one person can do something, anyone can learn to do it.
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    There is no failure, only feedback.

    "Journey of 1000 miles starts with a single step".--Lao Tzu

    Pro-Choice...ON EVERYTHING.

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