and if so, how can you tell if it has?
for the past 2 months i have been dating the girl of my dreams, i think. i have known her for about a year now. we pretty much keep to ourselves and hang out constantly (totally normal, i know) anyways, i have the best time every time we are with each other, sex or no. my only problem is her past
anyways, her first year out of college she was basically a "loosey goosey" so to say. getting drunk every night and fooling around with a lot of different guys. in my head i think that i dont have a problem with this, but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind and making me question her. the fact that she still hangs around a lot of her friends who were the same way (some of whom still are) does not help. i regularly hear stories and hear how they all used to be. she has gone as far to say that she hasnt gone more than 2 or 3 weeks without being with somebody in the past three years hearing this kind of stuff makes me worried that she may at some point revert to her old ways.
ever since we began talking and eventually dating she has said that she used to be dumb, and that she wants to change her ways, especially since she feels so good about me. at first though she even thought it was funny to tell me about guys she had fooled around with if i ever brought their names up by coincidence. she doesnt do that anymore but the fact that she did at first gets to me. she claims she doesnt want to drink anymore, and that she is sick of partying. we have only done pretty nerdy stuff the past couple of months with no opposition from her so i guess she is sticking to her word.
i guess i am just worried mostly because she still hangs out with those same friends and when they bring up the past it makes me sick to my stomach. also she has a lot of guy friends since she says she did not get along well with girls (understandable, my mom was the same way) am i wrong to feel worried? should i take her word and if so why? i am just being cautious about putting all my eggs in one basket to say the least, in fear that i am going to be let down, as that has happened in the past. i am trying to get over the fact that she used to get around, but her friends arent helping. is this normal/ok/part of the process of growing together? besides this she is perfect, the girl of my dreams, i can not think of one thing to change about her to make her perfect for me.
can a tiger lose its stripes, and if so how can you tell when it has?
thanks for any input